What is the end result?
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| Thu, 12-04-2003 - 9:33am |
The MM in this case is someone I work with and just this past week we expressed that we are attracted to each other and think about each other way more than we should. Last night we ended up at work really late and were alone in his office. We didn't kiss, but there was definitely intimate contact - more than is normal in a light-hearted flirty office relationship (which is what it had been up until this week). I'm not sure what to do. I can't stand the thought of breaking my husband's heart if something were to happen and he were to find out. Although, he probably would be pretty heartbroken at what's gone on so far. We've been married less than 6 months and I never thought I'd be in this position! I have no plans of ever leaving him - I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him.
I know I'm the only one who can make these decisions, but a little input from those of you that are there (or have been) on my question would be most appreciated!

As for H, I don't plan on leaving him, there are problems there but I do love him alot. If anything, I could just see my A gradually fading out like a candle maybe.
I don't think MM has very strong feelings for me, and I've recently had my feelings hurt by him after a long NC break, so I'm not as emotionally involved as I was before.
We meet for sex, that's about it. Eventually, I may not want to so much. Who knows??
Take care,
Dusty
Edited 3/10/2004 4:03 pm ET ET by geek_chic
I know how you feel and all I can tell you is that these thoughts will probably not subside or get any easier to deal with. I’ve read on here so many times statements like,” oh well, so much for the sex only thing!” It is SO HARD not to want more -- more of him physically and especially emotionally (even though YOU KNOW it is impossible for the relationship to go any further than what it is).
There is a movie, and I CAN'T REMEMBER THE DAMN MOVIE where a question is constantly flying around -- “How’s it going to end?” Anyone know what I’m talking about? Sound familiar to anyone? Anyway, I find that question in the back of my mind all the time anymore.
I guess I can’t really help you…just rambling!
Charlotte
As far as the expected end result. OM just had this exact conversation a few weeks ago. He said he knows our lives will change as time passes and will just not allow us much if any time together and that he fully expects us both to always be there for each other when we need one another. He said he will always love me even if I were to make him get outta my car at that exact moment. I have a feeling OM and I will just simmer eventually and perhaps ignite again someday, or not. My becoming a mother will definately put a crimp in my A but that's a sacrifice that's not important in comparison to becoming a mother...adjustments will be made to whatever length necessary and if that means my A dies then so be it...I will ALWAYS look back and be glad we shared such a love but through this I will experience a great deal of heartache...once you're there the heartache may be worth the experience but if you're not there yet I wouldnt advise you to take the leap...
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