What to expect?
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|Mon, 08-13-2012 - 9:47pm|
I'm new to an affair and new to the board. I'm glad I have found this forum...I've been searching for weeks for a community like this to vent and learn. I've been lurking for days and soaking up a lot of experiences that both relate to mine and in some ways don't. I amthe other woman. Different than most here I am single and he is married. I'm in my 40s and he is in his 50s.
From what I am reading its not much different than most affairs. We met at work about 7 months ago. The flirting and tension mounted...we became fast friends...working about 3 or 4 hours a day together. Finally the physical started about 3 months ago. Now I am confused.
He says he loves me. I believe him but I don't think his intentions are leaving his wife...but after 3 months who would? His kids are grown (from his first marriage) so staying for the kids is not an issue. Are there other reasons a married person would not leave an unsatisfying relationship rather than because of the kids?
I'm not ready to give up yet but I find the relationship becoming unsatifying...no weekends etc.
i broke up with him 2x already and find myself at square one. I know he doesn't want to hurt me and would respect my decision to end it (i think). Its hard because we work together..NC is not a possibility and I so want him!
What reasons would he stay in the marriage if not for kids? Wht should I reaonably expect after 2 months?
What should I expect?