What game are we playing now?

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Registered: 09-03-2003
What game are we playing now?
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Tue, 01-13-2004 - 4:20pm
Last week when I was mad at MM, he PROMISED that from then on, he'd make a point to be at his desk at our designated time to visit every day and he'd call me to have me come over to see him. It was because I was tired of always initiating everything. So yesterday the time came and went, no call. I knew he was busy so I just let it drop. Then today about 15 minutes after he was supposed to call, I started getting angry. He was breaking his promise, plain and simple. So I e-mailed him, thinking he'd get it whenever he returned to his desk after I'd gone to lunch, but he e-mailed right back that he was sitting right there. I replied, "Then why didn't you call me?" So he called and said to come over. When I got there I reminded him of his promise (which he'd conveniently forgotten) and asked why he'd just SIT THERE when he could be seeing me. He just shrugged, smiled, and said, "Maybe I enjoy you calling me." What on earth am I supposed to do with that? Is that not the biggest load of bull you've ever heard? Talk about playing games. I just don't know what to do with him. He says he's been calling me constantly and I'm never at my desk. Actually, since they moved me to his floor, I haven't been at my desk much. Every time I walk out into the hall there's a huge chance of running into him, so instead of consolidating my trips down the hall I will do one thing at a time. So I'm up and down the hall all day, but that means I'm missing his phone calls. (One call a day, big deal!) I told him that for 8 months I've been calling him every day and he's not at his desk so I gave up a while ago and now he's going through the same thing I was going through. I'm just tired... That's all I can say! What do you do when they start playing these silly games???
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 01-13-2004 - 4:34pm
lilah, i'm sorry, girl, but i'm laughing over here!! i really can't say what i WOULD say if my MM treated me like that, way too much cussing, but i can say -- you better not expect anything from this guy, because he enjoys making you jump through hoops and he's not giving up that power, girl! and he's not going to "remember" anything unless he wants to, so you can forget that demand that he make an effort. he's just not going to change!

you have to back off this A, don't call, "visit", email, none of that. be civil when you see him in the halls of the office, but no fun and games. act like you couldn't care less if he calls you or not, whatever. be too busy to talk or visit. you need to get tough and bit@hy, honey. apparently, MM thinks he has you wrapped around his crooked finger and HE DOES! i hate to say that, but he does!

don't let MM play you like that!

gurl

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Tue, 01-13-2004 - 7:21pm
Hi LILAH

I agree with gurl, what do you see in this jerk anyway.

This goes beyond a game this is just total disrespect for you as a person.

My advice kick his *SS to the curb and make it stick.

FREE

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Registered: 07-27-2003
Tue, 01-13-2004 - 10:30pm
lilah

Please read back through your posts -- YOU are your own worst enemy; you are the monster. Are you so desperate for attention that you are willing to play high school cat and mouse games? Are you so lacking in self esteem? Come on, you deserve better. Wake up!! In your last post, you stated, “As for what I want in the future... I want us to be together 100% someday, as he does.” – Are you kidding? This is no relationship -- you're right, it’s a game and he’s plating you 100%.


Wake Up!

Charlotte




Edited 1/13/2004 10:31:58 PM ET by charlotte1203

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-14-2004 - 12:00pm
lilah honey, you EMA reads off like romantic novels that I used to be addicted to when I was a teenager. LOL Too complicated and stressful for me to answer - I'll for sure get an ulcer if I were you. hugs