What gives ?

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Registered: 11-13-2008
What gives ?
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Thu, 12-18-2008 - 12:20pm

I understand that my AP is M , has a W , has kids but is it only his job to take care of the kids? Why doesnt she take them around ever? On monday and tuesday we were supposed to meet for coffee in the morning and i get a call to cancel it because the W is going here or there and my AP is taking care of the kids..she hardly takes the kids along with her.Many times it has happened that we are having a good time and she calls for petty kids issues like b and c are fighting over this, b has coughed twice since morning.My AP attends to it ,never misses the issues regarding his kids but ,what is his W doing? Cant she handle petty kids fights even?
I am all worked up right now and very angry.we coundnt do it for the rest of the week as i am not here and wont see him flesh and blood till next week.

My AP is not making excuses,i am 100% sure about that as one of my friends is his neighbour but doesnt know about 'our' R.Back to my ramble.. his W is always going for pedicure, manbicure ,facial ....would be such an opportunity for us to meet BUT she makes him baby sit.I am furious.I dont want him to ignore or let go of his kids but shouldnt his W also take some responsibility for her kids?

Whew!! i am feeling terrible right now.




Edited 12/18/2008 12:22 pm ET by lovingdoll2008

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2008
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 8:40am

everyone has their own opinion of what an affair is...what it should be...and they have their own perception of how theirs is going....i have a very good AP and do not consider our affair stolen moments...we love one another very much and are very much in love

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 10:06am
It's called parenting, not babysitting.

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Tue, 12-23-2008 - 9:43pm

Hi Tygerzize,


I don't post very often, I have lurked on these boards for a few years though and it seems when I do post, I don't quite get my personal point across.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2008
Wed, 12-24-2008 - 9:08am
i understand..i'm just saying we are all in this together..and when i feel a low, i retreat to this board now...i used to take it out on him and it created more pain and destruction and made him feel bad..because i would say some NASTY tish to him...get me...so, she was just venting which this board is good for...i just don't feel like we should make her feel any worse that what she feels for being in the A to begin and any worse than she feels by not being able to spend more time with her AP....

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 05-15-2007
Fri, 12-26-2008 - 5:01pm
What gives??? Lol, I'll tell you what gives, his kids are way more important than you ever will be. Don't have an affair with a
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-19-2008
Fri, 12-26-2008 - 9:54pm
I doubt that your married boyfriend's wife is "making" him do anything.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-24-2008
Sat, 12-27-2008 - 1:09am
Nice Comeback! Always take the high road. You go girl!
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2007
Sat, 12-27-2008 - 1:35pm

Good post!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-24-2008
Sun, 12-28-2008 - 12:12am
Well, perhaps she is "on" to what he's up to and this is her way of causing distraction for his extracurricular activities....ya know what I mean? My AP's wife and adult daughter know about me and our affair and believe me, they have come up with many "activities" that are designed to keep him "busy" after work and on the weekends when they're not around to keep and eye on him.... :)
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Registered: 11-11-2008
Sun, 12-28-2008 - 12:34am
hmm.

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