What is going on? Help!!!!!
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What is going on? Help!!!!!
| Tue, 11-11-2003 - 9:06am |
Hey everybody, well i wanted to post about what's going on in my Ema recently. About 3 weeks ago, i got to see my MM and we spent a few hours together and it was great, we talked about everything we possibly could. he was very affectionate and we hugged and kissed and etc. I made the comment that if we both realized that we wanted to be together than how would it work and mm said " that he would want me to move with him out of town, we discussed some places to go but that was it, He did tell me that he has been looking for another job in another state, I dont know if this is his way of saying that he wants to be with me for the long haul and he's doing all he can so we can have that. Granted, we have been seeing each other for almost 10 mths, and he has never told me straight out that he loves me, he did make the comment that he has "strong feelings" for me and i asked him what does that mean and i said are u saying "that you think u are in love with me" or you just really like me and my company. MM responded saying " I think (like he was asking me) i am in love with you. He wont confess and tell me if he does love me, i was the one who said it first, and everytime i talk to him on the phone before i hang up, i tell him I love him and he tells me "i know you do". Ladies i dont know what to do anymore, i feel like it's a losing battle. As long as we have been seeing each other, MM should know if he feels love for me. Well, i didnt get the im he usually sends me on the day we are suppose to meet up, so i call him to find out that him and his son are sick, so i was caring and understood. We talked for awhile and he was trying to to get me mad at him, i just blew it off b/c you know how guys are when their sick and ill they can be a pain. So i left it as that. Next week, didnt hear anything, called MM several times and didnt get an answer, so i waited a few days and still nothing, so i take it upon myself to call him at work. He answers and i say hey, why havent i heard from you" and he was like i have been probably busy" i said really" and he was like "probably". I said well i need to talk to you and he said " it isnt the best place to talk right now" so i said ok and he said ok (like he was asking me if it was ok" so that was it, end of conversation. Since then i havent received an email from him, im or anything. I dont know if this is his way of breaking it off. I just wish men would have the decency to tell a woman that they dont wont her anymore instead of avoiding her and hope she gets the hint. I dont know that if he is just mad at me about something or what. The only thing i can think of if he is mad at me is one of my friends that still works with him, told me on the phone that he told a guy he works with about me and MM, i asked my friend why did he say something and he said oh, dont worry he wont say anything and i said well i hope not, b/c all i need is for MM to think i am spreading gossip about us. My friend said that he'll go back and tell the guy he told not to say anything because noone is suppose to know. Well i do think this guy told MM that he knows about our affair and it has made MM mad at me, if it's not this than i have no other clue.Been calling MM but get the answer machine. I just wish he would tell me what's going on. It's like he tells me in his own way that he thinks he is falling in love and then runs away. Is this usually the way men act when they have to realize that the feelings are getting pretty deep for a woman, they just get scared and run away? Well i am confused girls, i dont know what's going on and i have to sit here depressed and sad wondering if i'll ever hear from him again. This is not right, im the one having to guess how he feels and what's up with him. I just want him to either say it's over or explain why all the avoiding is going on. Well any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. sorry so long, i just had to vent. take care ladies

Edited 10/1/2004 6:47 pm ET ET by sally289
MM IS trying to break off with you. the NC, no emails, no calling, are his way of saying "it's over"!
he's not not mad or found out that you may have told someone else about the A, or whatever. MM has NEVER said he loved you, didn't want to say it unless you dragged it out of him and now he's running the other way because he's scared and probably just wanted some fun and games, not a real permanent R with you.
i'm soooo sorry to write this, but please, please, please, stop contacting him, no calls, emails, and don't ask any of his friends and/or co-workers anything about him. MM is done with your R. accept it and move on for yourself. keep your dignity and DO NOT CONTACT HIM AGAIN.
sorry to be so harsh!
good luck,
gurl