What the heck??
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What the heck??
| Sun, 09-20-2009 - 2:00am |
Okay, now I am really beginning to think that there may be more to this. I have written before that a colleague of mine, a mentor in a lot of ways, and I were first physical a year and a half ago. Last Monday (Labor Day) we were physical again. We discussed the next day that we need to be more careful b/c we almost got caught. We never were clear as to whether or not we would continue and turn it in to an A, just that we need to be careful. Ever since last Monday, there hasn't been a day that he has not called me. Strange thing is, we always have talked about business, but he has been making a point to call me even if the only time he could talk with me was on a layover for 10 minutes. Tonight, he just came back from being out of town, he called me on his layover and talked with me, casual non business conversation. When he landed, he called me again and we talked both business and non business. I mentioned a "stalker" I had when I was on the road and he was telling me I need to stay at nicer places etc so I don't have to worry about safety. We talked for about 25 minutes and he asked if he could call me back, if I would still be up b/c he was arriving at home and to give him 10 minutes and he would call back. This is totally not the usual, normally he would just tell me he'd talk to me tomorrow. So, he calls me back and we have been talking for an hour...then he whispered that his W just came downstairs and I know she asked who he was talking to. Even though we were having somewhat of a business conversation, he totally changed his posture when she came outside. I am really starting to wonder if for him this is just as much an emotional relationship as it is a physical one. We don't see each other a lot so not a lot of physical opportunities, but I certainly want to be careful if he is getting emotionally involved. What does this sound like? I don't know what he is thinking or what he expects, nor do I know that he would be completely honest if I asked for the fact that he wouldn't want to show any vulnerability. HELP!

It sounds to me like your AP is really wanting to get the A started up full blown. I cant say what he's thinking. He may be wanting to get to know you better, it's really hard to say. If I were you, I would ask him straight up what it is he is looking for. At least you will know where you stand. He may be truthful he may not. But that is the case with anyone whether he's a SM or MM.
Do you have feelings for him? What is it that you want out of this? Once you answer that question and then find out where his head is