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what the hell am I doing!
| Thu, 10-16-2003 - 2:46pm |
I have no idea what I'm doing...I met this wonderful man..my butcher actually. We've been flirting for months. I am married and so is he. There is this attraction between us that is intoxicating. Yesterday we meet at a local park. It took all I had to not make love with him. I felt like a teenager.
We both have been with our spouses for 11 years & have children. I am 44 , he is 40. Just the sight of him makes me shake, and from what I can see, I have the same effect on him. Neither of us has ever contemplated anything like this, let alone act on it.
I just went out and purchased some some sexy bras & panties...I haven't done this in years! I don't know what I'm doing. I can't help myself. I want to be with him........ADVICE!!!!!!
We both have been with our spouses for 11 years & have children. I am 44 , he is 40. Just the sight of him makes me shake, and from what I can see, I have the same effect on him. Neither of us has ever contemplated anything like this, let alone act on it.
I just went out and purchased some some sexy bras & panties...I haven't done this in years! I don't know what I'm doing. I can't help myself. I want to be with him........ADVICE!!!!!!

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I had to do ALOT of soul searching before I finally made the decision to follow through with how I felt about my MM as crazy as it is.
In addition you're going to have to ask yourself lots of tough questions like:
1. Why would I want to do something like this?
2. What's missing at home?
3. Is it worth the risks involved?
4. What are the risks involved?
5. What would I do if I'm found out?
6. Can I be careful enough to hide it completely?
7. How discreet can I be?
8. Why would he do something like this?
9. What do I want out of an EMA?
10. Is he worth it?
11. etc.......
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and there's also the excitement of someone different desiring you and feeling exactly the same way you do. it's a very heady, wonderful feeling.
before you go any further with MM, you need to decide if this is the course you want to follow -- it's definitely a rollercoaster ride -- lots of ups and downs. making time to see each other, to talk, to be intimate. and there will be guilt involved on both sides. you need open, honest communication with MM to decide if you both want the same thing and to set some rules if you do want to take your relationship to the next level.
having and maintaining an EMA/A is very time-consuming. please be sure you and MM are willing to go through all the emotional and physical hoops.
if you do go for it, have fun with it! that's what As are for -- it's not brain surgery!
take care and good luck,
gurl
Wow, you described my feelings exactly. I'm in the same situation, though my MM is a bit older than I. Isn't it crazy the rush of emotion you get just seeing him or thinking of him. How do you control them?!?! I have yet to try... I like it too much. The only advice I can give right now (and should take myself) is just hang on tight and enjoy the good ride. My only concern is the let-down, I hate to think at some point there will be one. Best of luck in finding out what's right for you... I'll try and do the same..
Oceangodess
and i can't wait!!!!!!
gurl
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