What if he says the "L " word?

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Registered: 04-25-2003
What if he says the "L " word?
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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 1:08am
We must have spent two hours on the phone tonite. I couldnt get away to see him. We had our second big discussion the other day. We were together a few nites ago and I asked him how many times he had "messed around" in his marriage. He said" Ow. Are you trying to slap me in the face?" I told him no that I was just curious. His response was "3-3.5" He asked me and "I said just you." He kind of freaked out. He didnt know that and I thought he did.

Tonite we just talked and I swear he said "I love you" all sly and quick in the middle of something alot less serious. Two minutes later he called me "Honey" and when I pointed it out he called me "Precious" I advised him to always tell me the truth about what he thinks and how he feels.

I think he"s going to say it. I don't know if I am ready to hear it.

What ride this has been..

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Registered: 04-16-2004
Fri, 04-30-2004 - 7:09am
What does he mean 3 - 3.5?
cl-noregretsyet (co-cl of MAS board)
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Registered: 10-16-2003
Fri, 04-30-2004 - 9:22am
I think the reason he told you 3.5 was his way of saying - none of your business. You are not his wife & he does not have to answer to you. People have affairs to escape the bullsh*t of everyday life and reality.

If you want to keep this man don't push the "I love you" issue. Just enjoy and keep things light. Have fun or else he will find someone else to have fun with.

Make him hunger for you by creating as much sexual tension as possible and he will be yours. Don't be so quick to tell him you love him, instead show him. Men love the chase, make him work for you. If you give yourself easily then your value will go down. Show him you are worthy.

Just my thoughts,

Good Luck

HFL

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Registered: 02-18-2004
Fri, 04-30-2004 - 12:08pm
My MM told me he loved me about 2 months into our relationship. I was not really to that point yet, but that kind of pushed me along. He told me one night when we were laying in bed. He has also told me repeatedly that I am the ONLY "girlfriend" he has had since he has been married. I assume that means he has fooled around, but never been in an actual relationship. It was the most wonderful thing to hear. He tells me at least five times a day that he loves me. It is at the end of almost every message he sends. In some ways it makes it harder, because I know he wouldn't be saying it if he didn't mean it. But, I always love to hear it.
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Registered: 04-16-2004
Fri, 04-30-2004 - 1:37pm
My MM has never said the word "love" in it's entirety....it's always been referred to as the "L" word.
cl-noregretsyet (co-cl of MAS board)
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 04-30-2004 - 1:40pm
The night I met OM he was with his brother. I recall hearing the brother say "Don't look into her eyes or you'll fall in love." HA! I wonder where he got that idea from.

elf

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Registered: 04-25-2003
Fri, 04-30-2004 - 9:59pm
I want to know for sure how he feels but I don't think the l word is what I'm ready to hear.

I'll let ya know if and when he does. I'm glad you all are here. I don't know if I could keep it alll in. He has a friend or two that know about us. i can't tell anyone.