What if Your H Was Cheating on You?

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What if Your H Was Cheating on You?
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Sun, 02-21-2010 - 8:01pm

curiousaboutlife posted this question as a reply in another post, and I was curious about it too, so I created this new thread (hope you don't mind curiousaboutlife.)


To the M-OW on the site:

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Registered: 12-02-2009
Sun, 02-21-2010 - 8:11pm

I'll go first...


It's a double-standard, but I would definitely feel betrayed.

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Registered: 11-10-2009
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 4:05pm

Okay, so here goes another double-standard!!

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Registered: 10-18-2008
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 5:42pm

My husband is cheating on me.

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Registered: 11-14-2009
Tue, 02-23-2010 - 1:20pm

First off good question...it defintely caught my attention.


Okay so would I feel betrayed or relieved? I am currently divorced from my exH who did know about my A. All the while I was in my A I was hoping

cntrygirl03
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Registered: 01-23-2010
Wed, 02-24-2010 - 12:08am
Sadly, I think I would almost feel relieved.
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Wed, 02-24-2010 - 9:58am

I had a quick couple of minutes when I thought this might be the case once. I came to the computer and saw an instant chat box up on the screen. I stared reading it, and my H was "saying" "OK, let me see the picture. OK I see it now. CUTE, so cute!" My mind immediately thought that he was chatting with a female who was sharing a picture of herself, and I had the weirdest feeling. It was jealousy, a heart sinking disbelief, a little betrayal mixed with - "well, you so deserve this" to myself. Then I kept reading and realized he was chatting with a relative who was showing pictures of her baby! I felt relieved, but also felt like I really deserved for it to be more - I deserve to lose his attention/affection.

I guess if it were real and he was having either an EA or PA, I would try to pretend I did not know and let him be - because I deserve it! I would not leave him and I would not be angry, even if I felt betrayed. How could I be angry for him doing the same thing I am doing? I can't be that hypocritical. I also would not confess to anything.

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