What if Your H Was Cheating on You?
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What if Your H Was Cheating on You?
| Sun, 02-21-2010 - 8:01pm |
curiousaboutlife posted this question as a reply in another post, and I was curious about it too, so I created this new thread (hope you don't mind curiousaboutlife.)
To the M-OW on the site:

I'll go first...
It's a double-standard, but I would definitely feel betrayed.
Okay, so here goes another double-standard!!
My husband is cheating on me.
First off good question...it defintely caught my attention.
Okay so would I feel betrayed or relieved? I am currently divorced from my exH who did know about my A. All the while I was in my A I was hoping
I had a quick couple of minutes when I thought this might be the case once. I came to the computer and saw an instant chat box up on the screen. I stared reading it, and my H was "saying" "OK, let me see the picture. OK I see it now. CUTE, so cute!" My mind immediately thought that he was chatting with a female who was sharing a picture of herself, and I had the weirdest feeling. It was jealousy, a heart sinking disbelief, a little betrayal mixed with - "well, you so deserve this" to myself. Then I kept reading and realized he was chatting with a relative who was showing pictures of her baby! I felt relieved, but also felt like I really deserved for it to be more - I deserve to lose his attention/affection.
I guess if it were real and he was having either an EA or PA, I would try to pretend I did not know and let him be - because I deserve it! I would not leave him and I would not be angry, even if I felt betrayed. How could I be angry for him doing the same thing I am doing? I can't be that hypocritical. I also would not confess to anything.
You've got a lot of choices. I