What is it about love that.......
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What is it about love that.......
| Wed, 09-17-2003 - 3:33pm |
Makes us soooooooo stupid?? Do you ever feel like you're the one doing all the work in your A? Granted the man lives 1000 miles away from me, and we see each other twice a year, but is it too much to ask for a little more in the way of emails? A little more consideration of my feelings & needs? I'm so intuned to what he needs I'm beginning to forget my own. He's been out of town since Saturday and was suppose to come back yesterday, then it was today and I still haven't heard anything and like a fool I check my mail like every 5 minutes. Nothing like being taken for granted is there. Ok I just had to rant and rave. Seems like I'm the only one doing the "online" A here, but is there anyone else out there who goes thru this or am I the only stupid woman left on the planet?? Thanks for listening!

So to answer your question....NO! I just think that in both of our positions it makes you feel rejected in a sense and that you are trying to keep things together and keep the A going but he seems like he doesn't want to. Who knows, men are sometimes so tricky....I certainly cannot read my OM.
But I do think that the emotional impact sometimes makes us look at things as we want them to be and not as they are... and then we set ourselves up for expectations that were never really presented to us in the first place. I had to remind myself regularly that MM had a WHOLE LIFE before I came along, and he expected to continue in that life... which meant time with me just sort of had to "fit in" when it could. And for a while, as long as I could keep that in perspective, things worked well for us... after all, I had my entire life also, without him, before our EMA. Only when we started wanting more out of the R did things start getting really messy.
But at this point, does your OM/MM even know that you feel there's a communication lack? Have you been able to talk about it enough to address some solutions?
No one is stupid. But you want and you need. And OM/MM may not know that, or "get" it yet... but when he does, be prepared because his answer may not be what you hope for.
Didn't someone say love is blind, deaf AND dumb? lol... that applies to everyone! But it doesn't have to apply forever.
lily
That is the complete truth. Maybe I do expect to much. You've given me alot to think about. No, I haven't told him any of my feelings, because I really haven't had the chance TO talk to him, but you can bet I'll be telling him soon.
Thanks so much ladies...nice to know I'm not the only one who feels like this!!
Trac~