What to make of a comment OM said...

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Registered: 01-24-2004
What to make of a comment OM said...
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Sat, 05-01-2004 - 10:35pm
I've been in this A since December 2003. Recently, me and OM have been seeing each other at least once a week and talk 6 out of 7 days. We have been doing GREAT!! I havent' really put any pressure on the situation and have been taking it at face value!

Well, tonight OM came over. We were talking and out of no where he said that he'd be single in a month or so. I didn't really comment on it but obviously that made me happy to hear!

What should I make of that comment? Should I ask him if he sees us together if and when they break up or should I not say anything and see what happens?

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Registered: 06-29-2003
Sun, 05-02-2004 - 12:00am
Hi Hondagal: I think your OM is trying to let you know that he's serious about a R with you. I think it's very good news and it sounds as though you are playing it cool without putting any pressure on him. Bravo, girl!!! It sounds as though you're on the right track. I don't know your circumstances (either of you married?) but this could be a very good thing.

Myself,I think I would want to know the details and ask him to explain further. I think he opened the door but since you didn't ask for the details, he may have taken it as a sign that maybe you weren't interested in a committed R with him. Not that that's the case, but he may need a little reassurance from you in that regard.

If his being single paves the way to an 'out in the open' R for you two, then I would absolutely let him know how you feel about him. JMHO, good luck!!

Virgogirl

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Registered: 11-26-2003
Sun, 05-02-2004 - 7:37am
I dont think you shuld jump into that discussion yet. You have to sit and ask yourself first if you are willing and wanting to be with that person. here's one thought to keep in mind. He is obviously married. IF he has cheated on his wife, (regardless on the reasons now), isnt there the possibility ( and a very big one if I may add) of him cheating on you too? Believe me the first affair is the most difficult one. Afterwards his conscience dies out completly!! I think you should keep as they are for now..dont rush it!