What is most important ????

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2009
What is most important ????
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Mon, 05-24-2010 - 12:10pm
Hi, I have never been more confused in my life and I am here to ask you all what you feel is most important. I have been married for 17 yrs with three adopted children one that is autistic ( very tough ) Now that I know different I dont think I was ever really attracted to my husband. I married at 20 and had no idea the love I felt was not what I really wanted. My husband and I grew apart and the kids "filled" that place in my heart. Hubby was emotionally abusive ( mildly ) I am sensitive he is not. Sex became non exhistant, or dredded when it happened. I accepted until I met someone incredible. Hubby and I are " separated " not divorced due to health ins coverage. After 8 months of having an affair I ended it with hubby, my AP also left his wife, he says he wants me forever and is so in love with me . He is very sensitive and loving, has never snapped or been rude to me ever in the 1 1/2 yr I have dated him. He said now he knew what he wanted in life he could not live a lie. He left right away I took those 8 monts to get the guts to do it. My AP who I know call my boyfriend, is wonderful, he treats me like a woman, stares into my eyes, makes me feel beautiful. He is everything I want "except" the security I had with my old life. He doesnt make alot of money, he has three kids so do I and when we all get together its stressful with my autistic daughter she gets overly stimulated. Six kids omg... but
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-03-2010
Mon, 05-24-2010 - 4:35pm

You're in a really tough situation, and I certainly don't envy you.

anotherseyes

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2009
Mon, 05-24-2010 - 9:32pm
Thank You for your post, Im not sure what to do... I am deffinately stuck and causing myself pain. I wish I could make a decision and not look back but either way it hurts so badly :( Why does life have to be so unfair :(
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-03-2010
Mon, 05-24-2010 - 10:10pm
I really do understand, especially the feelings of life being "unfair" sometimes.

anotherseyes