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|Sat, 08-25-2012 - 11:20am|
How do you move from the "I notice you/you notice me" phase to the AP phase? I am stuck in limbo. Of course, he doesn't make it easy. Sometimes he stares at me as though I am sucking all of the oxygen out of the room, other times he goes out of his way to not look at me. (Still the same guy from my previous post "Imagining Things?". Nothing has changed).
I went on vacation the week after he returned, so I did not see him. I had submitted a work order to his department before I left, but it was assigned to him and he had to call me when he was back in town. He called the day after I left, and I got a notice that he would call back the following day. I sent him a personal email telling him that I was gone until such and such date, and I made a small joke about no one knowing anything about where other people are in my department. He never responded, and he called back the following day. Anyway, this went on for days (him not reading my emails-I flagged them to alert me when read and never received the alert- and calling back), until I came back to the office. When we finally spoke on the phone, he stuttered through the beginning of the conversation, and mumbled/laughed nervously whenever I would make a joke or attempt to fill the awkward silence with conversation as we waited for computer programs to load. My issue ended up taking a long time for him, so afterward, I sent a cursory thank you email letting him know if there was ever anything he needed from our department, to let me know. Of course, no response.
One thing about our emails is that we ae constantly getting warnings that our emails are monitered and to keep them professional. I never send non-business related emails, though I do make jokes and personal asides within them, but I wonder if he doesn't want to risk sending something that could be seen as personal. I don't know. If I can't get a conversation started with email, then I have to try to get something going at the gym. But I never know what to say. It's not like I can say "Let's start an A". Ugh, I feel so inept.
Any ideas where to go from here?? Or should I even bother trying?