What now?

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Registered: 07-23-2004
What now?
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Sun, 07-19-2009 - 10:37pm

From the beginning of my relationship with my H, it has been rocky at best.

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Registered: 11-12-2008
In reply to: manda0777
Mon, 07-20-2009 - 2:41pm
I wouldnt say 'run' as i know when it comes to emotional attachement,to expect this out of you would be very silly of me/anyone.If things are bad at home,you will be inclined towards the OM,Period.I would just say that be aware of the fact that your AP is single and will soon want more.how will that work out?
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Registered: 06-18-2009
In reply to: manda0777
Tue, 07-21-2009 - 10:09pm

Be careful you're NOT romanticizing life with the OM just because you're not happy in your M anymore. Settle whatever issues you're having with your M and if you still feel that you want out of your M, then go forward from there honestly and with dignity. However, drop the AP if you're serious about giving your M an honest chance. It's not fair to both these men that you're giving them mixed signals. It is also very dangerous.

An A does NOT help nor solve marital problems. It would only be like putting band-aid on a broken bone. If you don't work that stuff out, you'll likely do the same thing (cheat) when the going gets tough with the new guy.

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Registered: 07-01-2009
In reply to: manda0777
Tue, 07-21-2009 - 10:23pm

goddess- may I ask, why are you on the affair support board? I'm curious to know when YOU think it's okay for an affair, or how YOU justify it.

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Registered: 07-23-2004
In reply to: manda0777
Wed, 07-22-2009 - 4:47am

Thanks everyone for the advice.

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Registered: 07-23-2004
In reply to: manda0777
Wed, 07-22-2009 - 5:05am

I just also wanted to add that I don't expect anything from the other man - or ever seeing the other man again.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-18-2009
In reply to: manda0777
Wed, 07-22-2009 - 1:22pm

I am on this board because I can. You haven't been here long enough to know my story and I don't have the time to re-tell it.

If you're really curious, then do advance search on me. Otherwise, you don't have to read my posts if you don't like my style. Utilized your "ignore" button and put me on it.

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