What now?

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Registered: 09-14-2003
What now?
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Wed, 12-24-2003 - 11:59am
OK. Here's my story. I met a guy about 3 months ago at work (I'm his bossand 12 years older than he). Anyway, he has always flirted with me and even another guy at work says that he has a crush on me. The flirting got pretty intense about 3 weeks ago and since then we have had ic twice. This past Friday was the last time and after it I told him that I thought we should end everything (mostly because I am starting to have feelings for him and he is only 19). He does not know the reason for ending it, other than the job and my M. He said it was completely my decision and that if I wanted it to be over, he would not force anything, but at the same time he would like to continue if I wanted to. He called me Saturday night at work and was very intoxicated. He asked me again if we were done and I said I guess. He said he guessed that was not the time to talk about it since he had been drinking and again that he would continue. Last night at work, we were kind of cool and distant and then I talked to him after he got home. Later on, I talked to his best friend (who knows about the A) and he asked if I was sad since SG broke it off with me. I said "Excuse me?" and he said that he had asked SG how things were going and SG said that he was tired of it and it was over. The friend then proceeded to tell me that SG had told him everything about our times together. I was furious. At first because I am very attracted to this guy and my feelings were hurt, but then because I have been so stupid. I knew getting involved with a younger guy was bad, I just wish I had listened to myself. The question is now what? Do I approach him about it or just let it go? I have fought calling him all morning and just need some advice.

Thanks for listening.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: camp1298
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 12:19pm
oh my, well, camp, sleeping with a 19-year-old guy is, well, asking for trouble, unless you're a 19-year-old girl. immaturity, anyone?!

all i can say to you is that you need to let it go right now. what good will it do for you to confront SG about his lying to his friend how why the IC stopped? you've got the most to lost here - after all you're M, AND his boss, so act like it and let this entire situation cool off/down over the holidays. and do not acknowledge SG on a personal level after this A has become history!

good luck,

gurl