what is she trying to prove

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Registered: 05-08-2004
what is she trying to prove
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Sun, 05-09-2004 - 2:34pm
how do you ladies handle this? this lady called my house today..telling husband my all this information about me..calling me a slot and other names and told him she is sending him information. what do i do..

please help. i am a nervous wreck..

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-05-2004
Sun, 05-09-2004 - 2:37pm
do you know this lady? is she identifing herself?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2004
Sun, 05-09-2004 - 2:39pm
no..just a friend of mm
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Registered: 05-05-2004
Sun, 05-09-2004 - 2:43pm
does she have any valid info or just blowing steam? i wet thru the same thig except the person did not call my house they called MM's W. I stand firm and say never happened sorry someone is lying to you.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2004
Sun, 05-09-2004 - 2:46pm
I am ready to call MM and tell him to tell his other woman, that she can have him just leave us alone. In my opinion nothing she has is valid unless she has been snooping around taking pictures of us making love..that is valid as it comes....
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2004
Sun, 05-09-2004 - 2:49pm
plus how does she know all my information....she even says one of my children does not belong to my husband...
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Registered: 05-05-2004
Sun, 05-09-2004 - 3:10pm
sounds like she needs to mind her own business. maybe you need to call her and tell her you need to talk about the bs she is telling people. then tell her that her life must be soooo boring that is the only reason she has to get off thru yours. and then i would do damadge control with your H. hope that helps
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Registered: 10-22-2003
Sun, 05-09-2004 - 4:08pm
I am very sorry for what you are going through. I'm struggling through something similar at the moment. In my case my MM's W just discovered that he and I have been communicating, despite the fact that we've been "caught" twice before. (Our A is long distance and non-physical.) She was pretty awful last time - insisting on talking to my H, etc. She's MUCH worse this time - hassling me by phone, email, etc. She wants a D and blames me for destroying their M. She again insisted on talking to my H. He spoke to her at my request, but he thinks she's crazy and doesn't take anything she says very seriously. (H knows that I'm good friends with MM but doesn't know the extent of my feelings for him nor his for me. Because the W found email, she has a clearer picture of the situation.)

I have recently started keeping copies of all the email she has sent. I wish I'd kept everything because some of what she sent earlier was pretty bad. Still, I'm keeping everything I can. If she doesn't back off I'll threaten to send them to whatever court is handing her D so the judge can see how crazy she can be. Or, as someone on the boards suggested, I can file a cease and desist order. The other thing I did was switch my home phone to an unlisted number. She can still call my cell, but at least this way she can't hassle my family - only me.

I truly do feel your pain. I wish you luck - I hope the situation cools off for you soon. I'd love to think my situation is cooling down, but I rather doubt it. The W said some things which makes me think she's not done yet.

Hang in there and please let us know what happens!

GB2

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Registered: 05-08-2004
Sun, 05-09-2004 - 4:18pm
thank you for your responses...do I talk to mm though? I will let you know and good luck to you too..
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Registered: 01-03-2004
Sun, 05-09-2004 - 4:23pm
Dear Time,

I'm sorry you're going through this. I know it must be frustrating and frightening at the same time.

You said that she knows your one of your children is not your husband's. If that is true, and the only way she could have gotten the information was through MM, then I would definitely talk to him. If he's been talking to her, then he needs to know what she's doing. She's liable to do the same thing to him - and to call his wife.

If she's just making stuff up, I'd laugh at her at go on. There is no need to confirm anything to her - ever. The woman obviously has a problem. She's not even his wife!

Good luck and keep us posted.



Cazrida