what should I do ?

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Registered: 05-14-2009
what should I do ?
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Sun, 06-21-2009 - 3:17pm

Each day that goes by without

“"Truer words were never spoken -" Ah, but true words leave hearts broken! Truth is only for the wise - Lovers ought to stick to lies”

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 06-21-2009 - 6:30pm
I would wait. Just wait it out. When xap returns from his trip, if he tries to call, you ignore him. In fact, you ignore any calls from numbers you don't know! Ok, and then if he shows up and starts crap, be prepared what you want to tell your h. You have to decide if you are gonna tell all or deny all. Honestly, with as crazy as this guy is, I think I'd play off that and go with denial. If he shows up and starts telling your h all about the A, deny. Point out how crazy this guy is, don't even know who he is. Does he have any kind of proof??? If he does, if there is a chance you sent an email or text or voicemail that you don't want your h to hear, you might do better to be prepared to admit. Sorry, only you can decide that for yourself. I wish I had better advice.
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Registered: 11-13-2008
Mon, 06-22-2009 - 10:02am
your AP sounds like a guy who wont give up till he gets what he wants,that is you.He will,imo,do every thing to get you.All you can do is fess up to your H !
sorry,no better advice as your AP is a tough one to deal with.
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Registered: 05-14-2009
Mon, 06-22-2009 - 3:15pm

First thank you for your advice.

“"Truer words were never spoken -" Ah, but true words leave hearts broken! Truth is only for the wise - Lovers ought to stick to lies”

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Registered: 05-14-2009
Mon, 06-22-2009 - 6:29pm

I only have myself to blame.. Should of know him better before getting intimate with him.

“"Truer words were never spoken -" Ah, but true words leave hearts broken! Truth is only for the wise - Lovers ought to stick to lies”

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Registered: 11-17-2007
Mon, 06-22-2009 - 10:08pm
Gal, Stay Strong, YOU CAN DO IT!!! From what i have read about your situation, it seems as tho this man picked someone who is vulnerable and is easily led astray. He took advantage of your weakness and threw it in your face.. You DON'T deserve that at all!!!! You deserve a man who will treat you with the respect you deserve and will treat you as the princess you should be treated like. Your AP treats you like he did/does cuz you dont stop him, he knows it, an he knows he can get away with it again, because he knows you are afraid of him.
As suggested above, you may need to get a restraining order if need be for your safety. And if you have to tell your H about the restraining order, then its better than being harassed by this maniac. If you really feel like you are in harms way, call 1-800-799-SAFE...there are people who can help you.