I don't think you have any grounds to stand on for getting mad. You have let yourself be used this way once an year, (for how many years???) therefore, any respect he might have had for you would have surely gone down the toilet the first time you let it happen.
Look, we teach people how to treat us. The story about the friend seemed "far=fetched" and if you keep letting him get away with stuff like that, then you've just taught him a new trick on how to treat you.
"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."
They don't want the strings of a relationship. That's why. When the A starts feeling like that they back off. This is not your typical relationship. You either are in it because you take it like it comes or don't take it at all. You have the power to change this. If you want a relationship that is real and trustworthy..don't have one with a person who is either married or attached. It's emotional suicide.
I went into my thing with no desire to take him away from his W or his life. I know they come first. My life is busy with other things..and he is looked upon as a bonus. BUT..the problem I'm facing was my growing emotional attachment. I have to let go of that and finally rid myself of this A..after many failed attempts. That is why I'm back on thie after being on EAS. A part of me wants his attention..as limited as it is. But I know my boundaries with him. I usually let him come and find me..I make no demands on his time or anything because if I start doing that I know it's over. My life is busy enough with other things..so this thing is not it..even though I have a hard time letting go of the obsessive thoughts..for the most part I don't act on them with making demands of him. I just don't go there..maybe that is why this thing has lasted as long as it has for me.
He doesn't want or feel the need to check in with you..he has to do that with his W.
Forget the relationship for a moment here. His friend tried to commit suicide. Let's go w/that being true. You should have given him space---period. If you've never been in the shoes of knowing someone who's tried or succeeded at committing suicide then you have no idea how that feels. I've been there & it's sheet hell as a friend to watch your friend suffer like that.
I don't think you have any grounds to stand on for getting mad. You have let yourself be used this way once an year, (for how many years???) therefore, any respect he might have had for you would have surely gone down the toilet the first time you let it happen.
Look, we teach people how to treat us. The story about the friend seemed "far=fetched" and if you keep letting him get away with stuff like that, then you've just taught him a new trick on how to treat you.
"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."
- Ramona L. Anderson
Thanks for your view.
They don't want the strings of a relationship. That's why. When the A starts feeling like that they back off. This is not your typical relationship. You either are in it because you take it like it comes or don't take it at all. You have the power to change this. If you want a relationship that is real and trustworthy..don't have one with a person who is either married or attached. It's emotional suicide.
I went into my thing with no desire to take him away from his W or his life. I know they come first. My life is busy with other things..and he is looked upon as a bonus. BUT..the problem I'm facing was my growing emotional attachment. I have to let go of that and finally rid myself of this A..after many failed attempts. That is why I'm back on thie after being on EAS. A part of me wants his attention..as limited as it is. But I know my boundaries with him. I usually let him come and find me..I make no demands on his time or anything because if I start doing that I know it's over. My life is busy enough with other things..so this thing is not it..even though I have a hard time letting go of the obsessive thoughts..for the most part I don't act on them with making demands of him. I just don't go there..maybe that is why this thing has lasted as long as it has for me.
He doesn't want or feel the need to check in with you..he has to do that with his W.