what should I do? married co-worker
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what should I do? married co-worker
| Thu, 12-04-2003 - 10:13pm |
Hi All. Some of you may remember me from a couple of months ago. I wrote asking you if you thought a married co-worker was interested in me. He was doing some serious flirting, suggestive sexual innuendos, winking, brushing up against me, etc. The flirting was becoming intense from both of us. He'd "joked" about us dating. I'd become VERY attracted to him. We are both professionals and I was very cautious and concerned about getting involved. You all agreed that you thought he was interested in starting something. He is a flirt, but more so with me than with most. I cooled off for a while because I got scared. Now, I can't go a day without thinking about him. I realize I really do want him but I'm scared to make the first move because I'm afraid that he might reject me. I have this fear that he's just flirting. Others at work have said they think he wants more (at least when we've all partied together and he's been drinking). I'm quite sure that if he's had a few drinks, we could end up in bed together. Problem is our work schedule rarely works out that we can get together after work for drinks with a group of people. The only solution is to make a move and see what happens I think. But I'm scared to do this since we work together and what if he turns me down??? Or what if he doesn't and then it changes things at work??? But I can't take this much more!!!!!!!!!!
Has anyone else been in this situation?? Our flirting cooled down some, but I think it's because I haven't made myself available lately for it. I'm starting to again and would like to take it further. Should I let him know? How do I do that? Any suggestions. I'm dying here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't want to make a fool of myself. How can I suggest something and make it so that if he doesn't want to we can still be good work partners and still have a good work/flirt relationship. We are obviously attracted to each other.

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Only you can decide what you want to do. If you want to pursue this start the flirting again and see where it goes. From what you have said it seems that you both want this to continue but are both afraid. Good Luck
Your situation sounds a lot like something i'm going through, I'm infactuated with a married co-worker as well, I posted here a couple of months ago asking for advice on whether or not anyone thought he was interested in me, the flirting the brushing etc, you know it all....I got a lot of responses saying that he was, and that i should just forget about it. I know its wrong and all, but i cant go without a minute without thinking about him. Its getting to a point where i'm starting to throw hints that i want to spend time with him and all. We have a similar situation and i am so tempted to make the first move. But i'm completely scared too as this is my boss. Maybe we can discuss our situations and help each other through this...my email is hopehar93@yahoo.com. I say make the first move if you are absolutely certain that this is what you desperately want. I think we both know that this is wrong, but heck we cant help it...
Thanks for your support even though I'm not quite in an affair-just thinking about it.
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