What a Weekend!

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Registered: 11-16-2009
What a Weekend!
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Sat, 03-13-2010 - 9:57pm

I feel bad posting happy times with AP, when I know so many people on this board are hurting. But I had the best time with my AP this weekend and aside from here I have no one to share with. So if your heart is hurting I apologize and am not trying to rub salt in anyone's wounds.

As I've shared on here before I'm in a long term (almost 8 years now) LDA. We only see each other a couple of times a year. We've been planning this visit since early November so I've been anticipating seeing him for quite awhile.

It was incredible! Fantastic sex! (I know A sex often is for many people). But I love how he looks me in the eye when we make love. Really, truly looks at me. I know those outside of A's will never believe this but I do feel like a beautiful treasure when I am with him.

We did basically stay in bed for two days (sorry if its a TMI), but there were some amazing conversations and just connecting to another human being emotionally and physically.

Since I have to wait so long in between visits sometimes I worry that how I imagine the visit or my expectations will exceed the actual encounter, but once again it surpased my daydreams. As always leaving is so hard and we haven't figured out when we will see each other next, but I know we will. And I know that I will be sad again, missing him, but for the moment I am so happy and grateful for the marvelous couple of days we had together.




Edited 3/13/2010 10:38 pm ET by kpbaby80
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Sat, 03-13-2010 - 10:34pm

No reason to apologize. I think a lot of people enjoy reading happy posts. This place can get pretty depressing with all the highs, lows and angst! I'm also involved in a long term A, but it's not long distance.

A happy post gives people hope! LOL!

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In reply to: kpbaby80
Sun, 03-14-2010 - 12:55am
i'm sooooo happy for you!!
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In reply to: kpbaby80
Sun, 03-14-2010 - 12:02pm

Hi kpbaby80,

You don't have to apologize for being happy with your AP at all. My goodness, that's a long time to be in an LDA! I think we can all appreciate how wonderful it must have been for the two of you to finally be together again.

I'm very happy that you got the opportunity to have this time with him, and thanks for posting your happy story!

benska

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Registered: 11-16-2009
In reply to: kpbaby80
Sun, 03-14-2010 - 11:11pm

Thanks everyone.

It is a long time to be in an LDA. When I stop and think and look back its amazing to me how much time has gone by. We've gone through many stages in our relationship it was an EA affair for awhile. There have been periods of NC as well in that time frame. Right now tho we are in a very good place together. We are both married and have no plans to change that, but we connect as something more than friends.

When we talked this weekend one of the things we shared was how despite our ups and downs neither of us regrets the journey we've shared together. I care for him so much, but I am also aware enough to know that part of the reason we have what we do is b/c it is still "fantasy". I do feel like I know him but then again its not his laundry etc. I do every week. It isn't my real life; but AP brings something into my world which no one else ever has. For that I'm always grateful.

*Sigh* Now I get to enjoy the memories and hopefully get to start planning for another rendevous again soon.

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Registered: 09-07-2009
In reply to: kpbaby80
Mon, 03-15-2010 - 4:29pm

Very happy for you, never be afraid to share good times...we all have them otherwise we wouldn't be in the affair now would we?

I was with my lover for the weekend too. It was beautiful sexy romantic loving and just what we both needed. We are perfect together. Not so perfect apart....but cest la vie'.