What worked for you?

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Registered: 04-25-2004
What worked for you?
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Sun, 04-25-2004 - 10:55pm
Looking for ideas here. Are there "safe" questions/conversations that you all have found helpful in gauging a man's interest in being more than friends? (more meaning an EMA, emotional or otherwise) I can't think of a way to do it tactfully.

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Registered: 03-04-2004
Mon, 04-26-2004 - 9:43am
Well, as a man... I have an "area" of suggestions...

Ego. If you're having a conversation and it steers into an area that would take a long time to really talk about (sports, music, art, cars, etc.) just casually saying "I wish we had more time to talk about this. If you ever have time to tell me more, let me know." Pretty safe, let's us dumb men take your open attitude and clear interest in us at face value BUT only if you throw out "let me know." Then it's obviously our move and we probably won't be asked again. And even then, some slow fellows won't get it.

Plus, it keeps you pretty safe since you can always retract it if he freaks out by saying you were just being nice or something.

Just my two cents from the man's side. If a woman I had any interest in opened the door like that... I'd go right in (pre-OW, of course; I'm a good boy now.)

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