What would make you give up MM?
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What would make you give up MM?
| Wed, 01-21-2004 - 4:24pm |
i've been thinking alot today about what it would take to make me give up my MM and the A.
| Wed, 01-21-2004 - 4:24pm |
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hmmm... I haven't thought about that... don't really like to... but here goes...
I guess if MM ever thought that we should end it... then I would have to respect that and move on.
Sweet
Co-Community Leader My
You have asked a hard one, that deserves some thought. I agree with Sweet.. If he asked, I would stop it, and vice versa. BUT I never see that happening. I often have thought about his DW (or DH for that matter) writing to ask me to, and it would be hard to not end it to stop the pain for them, being the one in the 'wrong' so to speak. I believe that even that could and would not keep us from communicating to some level.
I do like the statistics someone wrote, that only 85% of the woman have affairs once, and 80% men. THIS, I can understand. I do not seeing it happen again, ever for either of us. There is just something so right about this picture of ours, that can not be replaced. And if we have to say good-bye, for what ever reason, including death. I will come here and cry my heart and soul to all of you.
In conclusion, nothing would make me give him up, it would have to be a mutual decision. Even the pain, and the downsides, I can live with, if it means having him only a little to give me a smile when I need it, to bring me up when I am down, listen to his guidance, and to get my head straight when I can make no sense of it all... He is a good friend, first and for most!!!
Hugs, and congratulations again.
Mitzy
hey mitzy -- thanks for your good wishes!
CL-Gurlfriend50
Co-CL of My Affair Support Board
lilah -- the harsh light of reality versus the unpredictability of the heart -- happens all the time.
CL-Gurlfriend50
Co-CL of My Affair Support Board
What would make me 'give him up'?
1) If I caused more pain in his life than pleasure
2) If he caused more pain in my life than pleasure
3) If it was causing more problems than it was solving in our respective marriages.
That would have been a really tough question a couple of years ago. Now it's clear-cut and easy.
Kari
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