What would make you give up MM?

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Registered: 01-21-2004
What would make you give up MM?
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Wed, 01-21-2004 - 4:24pm
i've been thinking alot today about what it would take to make me give up my MM and the A.

CL-Gurlfriend50

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Registered: 10-28-2003
Fri, 01-23-2004 - 4:05am
>Long lost love>.. No he isn't, although he would tell you that our souls have always been together. That we have always been connected, and that finally our physical sides have been united, at a very long distance. And somehow he does convince me he is right.

As for the pain, tons of it. I told him that I didn't want him to hurt, and his answer, as long as this grows, and I am not his, it will hurt; and he wants to hurt to the very last bone, because every minute, good and bad, is worth it. How is that for an answer? So I do not worry about hurting him now, because I still like his presence around here.

And Gurl, hard hard.. I have no sound advice, as you know everyone must make their own choices. It must be so hard, to have your relationship working so well with BF and with MM on the side. I think you know the answer, as you said, and I like you would find it very very hard to bring my A back to 'just friends' level. But we also know, that your lives (MM & yours) are not defined as 'together' now. So you must devote the maximum to making BF feel secure, giving him the absolute most, even if you don't fully feel it, it will atleast reassure him (doing very much the same now myself). It will also ease up any suspicions that BF may feel towards MM, and may make those friend activities go easier. Kind of letting BF think he won?!? And letting MM know what you are doing, so that he understands.

I myself could not give up MM, even if it means being just friends. He knows too much, and I will always need his friendship, as he is the best support I have ever had, and that I am not sure I will ever find again. Does that make sense?

Be courageous and smart... Woman can do many things at once!!!

Mitz

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Registered: 10-06-2003
Fri, 01-23-2004 - 8:45am
1) If MM asked me to (I don’t see that happening)

2) If this became too much for him to handle.

3) Even if our S/O found out, I don’t believe it would stop us from seeing each other, maybe slow it down for a while!

I can’t imagine my life with out him in it; he's part of who I am.

dayz

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