WHAT WOULD U DO? Need ur input!!!

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Registered: 09-11-2003
WHAT WOULD U DO? Need ur input!!!
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Wed, 09-17-2003 - 6:41pm
Hey everyone! I live about 200 miles away from OM. We talk on the phone and email a lot. Before we moved away though, we've kissed a few times. Gosh, they were good! Anyway, he wants to come spend the day with me. I told him that I didn't want sex and he's totally alright with it. He said he just missed me so much that he would like to have some time alone to spend with me. I want to meet with him SO BAD but I'm just thinking about how I'm going to feel after he leaves. I know I would have such a beautiful time with him but is it worth the hurt after??? I know I'm gonna miss him terribly and feel suffocated, like I can't breathe. Has anyone felt this way too? Should I go for it or save myself from pain and hurt by not seeing him? Please give me your opinion.
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Registered: 09-16-2003
Wed, 09-17-2003 - 6:49pm
I would recommend going for it. I wish I could find a little something fun on the side. You only live once.
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Wed, 09-17-2003 - 6:49pm
Hi geann,

Only you can answer that one... only you know how strong you can be and whether you can deal with it.

I will say... if it was me... I'd go! in a heartbeat :)

Everytime I see MM... I'm as high as a kite from anywhere from half a day to a day... and then reality starts to set in again and I come back down to earth with a thud... and for about a day or two afterwards... you don't want to come near me with a ten foot pole *lol* my poor DH. Then once I've ridden the highs and lows... things then start to balance out even all over again... and I feel normal.

I do it over and over again... just to have that precious time that we manage to find... for me... that flying is so much worth that thud.

luv and hugs

Sweet

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Wed, 09-17-2003 - 9:32pm
I have to agree with Sweet...I'd do it in a heartbeat! I too, go through the emotional highs and lows after meeting with my OM...and it does suck. My OM tends to do the "pushing away" routine too...so I can totally relate to what you're going through. But the sheer joy and happiness it brings me just to see him and spend a few hours with him, far outweigh the down and depressing moments I may feel afterwards....most of the time anyways. ;) What else can I say other than that it's a vicous cycle...and it's one that I put myself through time and time again. I often ask myself "Is it really worth it?" So far the answer has always been the same...which I guess is why I can't seem to walk away from this EMA. If I were you...I would go meet with him and have the most wonderful day!!! =)

Bfly

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Registered: 08-23-2003
Wed, 09-17-2003 - 10:52pm
I've been with my mm for 3 years and at first when my mm use to come in for a few days and then have to leave. It would hurt so much. He also lives about 200 miles away. Noone could console me and my close family knew to just let me be. I had to ride it out.

Just this past weekend he was here for only 2 days. It was sooo great to see him, even though, we did have a small disagreement about something. We do email everyday and I talk to him everyday on his way home from work. Except on weekends.

It does get a little bit better eventually. Just a little, :). When we hug and are saying goodbye to each other. I don't want to let him go, but I have too.

You will miss him terribly, that is no lie. Just think about it very carefully because it's hard to turn back once anything else happens...

GOOD LUCK & BEST WISHES