What would you think....

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Registered: 08-17-2003
What would you think....
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Sun, 02-15-2004 - 10:23pm
Like I said earlier I have been involved with my MM since the end of Nov off and on. He is 40, I a 24. We have been off and on because of my reservations, not his. I care about him, but I have problems being the "other woman" he won't leave his wife because of his 14 year old daughter. He says he can't stand his wife, and wants to leave. But he won't because of his daughter. I have no reason not to believe him, he has been up front with everything since day one. The reason I ask is 2 of his friends, who know that we are seeing one another have pulled me aside recently wanting to know what is going on. Wanting to know if I realize he is married. BOth of them never knew that there was problems, and that everything seemed ok between the two of them recently. Everytime we are together W pages him at least once. He never calls back. But I really don't know what to think.2 friends both say the same thing. It just makes me wonder
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Registered: 04-03-2003
Sun, 02-15-2004 - 11:36pm
Be careful about the old "my wife's a B i am staying for the kids" line. i mean, if you know they are staying, that's good, at least you know. My MM is not that miserable at home. it could be better, but it's not awful, not awful for him to leave after such a long history. OK, i think it's sad that he isn't willing to make change for the better, but i do understand. Uprooting and starting a whole new life, that's serious stuff. A fourteen year old?? C'mon!! i think at 14 we all realize crap happens and yes, it would be a big deal, but they could still seperate and he could still have a great relationship with his daughter. sounds like a load of bull to me, BUT, if you know he isn't leaving, then does the reason really matter?? You either take him Part Time, or you leave him. Many of us are in your shoes, good luck with whatever you decide. Being the OW is quite the roller coaster ride!

Hang in,

jen