What is wrong with me?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-01-2010
What is wrong with me?
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Thu, 07-15-2010 - 9:48pm

I am having an Affair, have a BF and for whatever reason, am attracted to another MM. What the hell is wrong with me? Like I dont have enough men in my life, I need another??


I think we are just flirting right now but I can feel the attraction between us. He has been working in my store setting up a new ordering system for the past 2 weeks. I have been working with him since he has been here. He is teaching me the new procedures, so that means leaning in real close, listening to his every word, ect.


All next week I will be working with him, just him and I for 8 hours a day, I am acting like I dont understand just so he will come closer to me. WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING???


I just turned 40 and seem to be blaming my behavior on that, lol/ He has his family pic up on his computer, talks about his wife and kids and seems extremely happy about his life. He is the one to touch my shoulder or smile at me, or say "come here let me show you this" he already showed me that twice before.


Any ideas on why I am thinking about this guy, or what to do with all this?? Please help!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-04-2007
Thu, 07-15-2010 - 10:25pm
There's nothing wrong with harmless flirting but don't let it go farther. If your BF isn't enough to make you happy then maybe you should find someone else; just not the married guy. Save yourself the pain and humiliation. You're forty and fabulous and you don't need another woman's husband. Be strong.....
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-04-2007
Thu, 07-15-2010 - 10:27pm
LOL. I guess I missed the first part where you said you're already having an affair. I stand by the rest of my post..... sorry about that.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2010
Fri, 07-16-2010 - 1:16am
Well, if I remember correctly, your last post indicated that neither of the guys you are with are doing it for you all the way.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-29-2010
Fri, 07-16-2010 - 7:50am

There's nothing wrong with you. It's normal to feel attraction to any number of people. However, what you DO with that attraction is something else. Also, you turned 40, somewhere in your head is the notion that you don't have much more time to be "attractive" to the opposite sex. I know I went through that.

Some people here seem to manage two APs and a S/O. I don't know where they find the time, or how the rest of their life doesn't get neglected LOL. Is there a possibility that you want to drop one AP for a new one?

I don't know, just think very carefully before starting anything. You THINK it's good for your self esteem because he "wants" you - if you keep it like that it's a great ego boost. If you go ahead and get physical and he suddenly pulls way back and ignores you - think how that would affect your self esteem. I say quit while it's fun and ego boosting!

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