What is wrong with me?

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Registered: 12-22-2009
What is wrong with me?
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Sat, 01-02-2010 - 4:13pm

First, why can't I let my AP go? Why do I obsess over him to the point of embarssing myself? He is quite obviously not as in to me as I am in to him. He is s scuz and nothing to get all worked up over, but I seem to every time I'm around him.


My H is

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Registered: 11-26-2009
Sun, 01-03-2010 - 11:38am

Hi Secret!


I could have written that!


My H, gorgeous, sweet, tells me his loves my everyday (and means it), tells me I'm attractive, loves his kids, works hards, loves his mother, father, brother, basically I am married to a wonderfull caring person, who would never hurt a fly...


... and me, I get obsessed by a pycothatic piece of Sh**, to put in nicely! Why I waste my time thinking of ways to get him to fall for me I don't know, because I would never welcome this guy into my life under other circumstances! I'm pretty sure if I was single, I would never looked at him twice, but he has got under my skin by one way or the other, and I hate it!


If he told me he loved me and wanted me, I'd probably run a mile... hmmmm...I guess he must know something about how womens minds work (and at least my messed up head!)

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Registered: 10-05-2009
Sun, 01-03-2010 - 1:59pm
this guy must be a friend of dh's? If so, maybe just tell your dh that he makes you very uncomfortable and that you don't want to have him in your home at all. Not seeing him is best. And keep telling yourself how terrific your dh is. Do you see a counselor? If not, find one, you need one (I needed one, and have been seeing her since spring). Also, keep a journal. Write about the wonderful things you have with your h. Make him the focus of your life, dote on him, shower him with the love he deserves. He sounds like an amazing man, and you'll lose him if you keep this up!