What is wrong with me?

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Registered: 09-30-2003
What is wrong with me?
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Wed, 11-19-2003 - 10:39am
On monday I saw MM and we made incredible love. We both had pillow talk in the middle of it and were just talking about how this A came to be and he told me that although he found me attractive sexually part of that attraction came from the time that we spent together at work and how time just seemed to stand still when we were together. While being intimate I asked if I could tell him something and he said yes and I said "it might put a damper on things" then I said "I love you" and he said "I love you too" and he asked me why I thought that would put a damper on things. This is the first time I have heard it come from him he always texts it. Then he said it again "I really love you".

Well that was on Monday he was off that day and we were both off yesterday. He has not called or text since Monday. I sent him just a happy face text yesterday and no reply and I did not expect one back either. This usually does happen we rely that we are going to see each other at work so we really dont contact each other on our days off. I am just feeling that after all of that "sharing" shouldnt I at least gotten a text or email or something? Or am I expecting too much? I just dont understand when he sees me and when we are together he cant stop talking or kissing me or holding me. When we have been off and I see him at work he starts to text me if I have not text him (we work in different departments now). Men who can understand them?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-19-2003 - 11:08am
sally, honey, you are overthinking this whole situation! girl, your MM loves you, has said it out loud to you and in his text messages, etc. and the communication issue is non-existent since he is following the normal procedure after you are together.

so you're a woman and want more from him. you sent the smiley face text to him. that's all you can do unless you communicate with him (in person, please) that you would love to hear from him in some way when you and he aren't working. just a short "hello, thinking of you" would be fine.

men need guidance when it comes to what women want! they cannot and do not read minds. so if you want more communication, ask your MM for it straight out.

good luck,

gurl

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Registered: 09-30-2003
Wed, 11-19-2003 - 11:19am
Thank you gurl you are so right. I just get nutty sometimes.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-19-2003 - 11:21am
don't worry sally, you've got your MM good and just where he needs to be with you.

just let him know you need a little more communication in-between the times you are together or at work. keep it light, and no crying!

take care,

gurl

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Wed, 11-19-2003 - 11:28am
Sally,

Ditto!!! Me and MM were together Monday, got somewhat intimate. Enjoyed eachother's company, talked about getting together Tuesday, then bam. Nothing Tuesday. When I called and left my #, he called back and asked what was up. I asked where are you and he whispers 'with my family'.

I want to email him and tell him off. Why do they do this. Warm one minute, awol the next?

To top things off, DH is being a complete a*****. I don't even feel like dealing with him right now. As a matter of fact, I don't feel like dealing with either of 'em.

Do I even need a man in my life???? Much less two of 'em????

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Wed, 11-19-2003 - 11:57am
I hear you luvin, but I do understand that he has a family and that communication is limited on his days off but a text is so easy and fast to do. I would not think of calling him, heck I dont even text words just a happy face, but I think he can do the same just to let me know he is thinking of me.

Like gurl said sometimes we just have to guide them to what we want. It makes sense men rarely think of things like that it takes effort. But I do hear you.