What is your definition of LOVE

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What is your definition of LOVE
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Thu, 11-20-2003 - 1:11pm
When I told MM that I loved him, and he returned with I love you too. I assumed that love meant the same thing to him, as it did to me.

I believe when you commit to saying I love you, that means you are ready to put that person first and foremost in your life. That you are willing to sacrifice for them, at all cost. That you are willing to put Love into action, and that it is not just a word. I take it serious, and those are not words to play with. Unfortunate for me MM did not feel the same way.

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Thu, 11-20-2003 - 1:20pm
My definition is; Communication, friendship and most of all respect. I am fortuate to have all three with my H and MM. It weird, I love my H and I love my MM. But if the meaning or feeling of love is suppose to be that aching heart everytime time you touch or see each other I don't feel it with eiter one of them. I don't ache to see MM or H. I know I sound like a hard ass and maybe I am. Just my feelings:) NMR
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Thu, 11-20-2003 - 1:25pm
My definition of love is a little different. I agree with Secretluver and NMR but also believe that it's acting in their best interest always. You want nothing but the best for those you love..even if it means backing off.
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Thu, 11-20-2003 - 1:27pm
ditto

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Thu, 11-20-2003 - 1:53pm
I don't know if I could actually define love but I will do my best to describe it. It is the sense of peace that comes when there is someone who "gets" you. No explanation, no excuses, no justifications. They know and understand why you are the way you are and love you because of it - not in spite of it. They think you are perfect because you are imperfect. It's the place where no one wants to change you but they inspire you to be the best person you can be.

I don't think it is a matter of putting someone first in foremost, because sometimes it is not possible. Think about it, aren't there times when you have had to say no to someone you love?? It isn't because you don't love them but because sometimes life doesn't always operate on our schedule.

It doesn't mean that MM doesn't love you - perhaps it is that he doesn't express it the way that you WANT him to.

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Thu, 11-20-2003 - 2:05pm
damn girl, you are sooo ME!

my definition of love is ever-evolving, depending on the day and time (and person!) but i do love my BF and MM because those two guys are the only ones in the whole world i would spend any time with, physically and/or emotionally.

i believe communication is one key aspect of love, as is understanding and compassion. and more than one or two common interests to share when the passion ebbs. and good, steady sex on a regular basis (whatever that means for you and him), and some mind-blowing sex on those wine-soaked evenings doesn't hurt either.

i don't have the aching heart, but my pulse does a little jump when i see MM. he just turns me on so much. i doubt i'd feel the same if MM and i were together 24/7, but who knows.

i'm enjoying my life now because it's the way i want to live it - my choice, not someone else dictating the direction.

see ya,

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Thu, 11-20-2003 - 6:09pm

goodgirl said it... Ditto! amiless :)


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Sat, 11-22-2003 - 11:17am
Got to agree with aimless. When you have their best interests in mind, it's true love. Being "in love", on the other hand, is when your heart speeds up and you want to touch him. Being "in love" is so much easier in a fresh, new relationship. It's so exciting. True love is more about friendship, trust and respect. JMHO.
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Sat, 11-22-2003 - 8:45pm
Love is totally unconditional...no matter how I look at it...Would I not love the MM if he didn't love me? Yesssss I would... No matter how he feels about me I still love him. I feel love is a personal choice. If I allow my heart to open to another.... it is a choice. I may or may not like the feelings the choice has brought into my life...but I was the one who made the decision to open up and love this person. To love is to feel

Blissful, Confident, Thoughtful, Interested, Joyful, Meditative, Satisfied, Happy, Optimistic, Relief, Aggressive, Arrogant, Bored, Disappointed, Grieving, Horrified, Hangover, Hurt, Obstinate, Paranoid, Snobbish, Suspicious, Frustrated, Jealous, Indifferent, Envious, Prudish, Enraged, Frightened, Sad, Idiotic, Disapproving, Anxious

Shocked, Curious, Determined, Miserable, Perplexed, Puzzled, Regretful, Exasperated

Innocent, Sheepish, Surprised, Undecided, Sympathetic, Lonely, Withdrawn.... to love is to experience all of life's emotions...an not hold your MM or anyone else responsible for the way you are feeling.

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Mon, 11-24-2003 - 7:16pm
when a person can make your heart skip a beat, he / she is yur first thought in the morning and your last thought at nite, you anxiously wait for the phone to ring, his / or her touch makes you tingle, every song, every movie, every event and person makes you want to be with that person, and when you can't picture tomorrow without him / her.......thats how I define love. Unfortuantely, I feel this way about 2 men, H and MM......Oh yes, and love can conquer all.....


Edited 11/24/2003 7:24:45 PM ET by xterra2003
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Tue, 11-25-2003 - 12:06am
MM and I had that discussion too. I meant it the same way you did, and he wanted me to realize there are different facets of love that everyone feels. For example, you don't love your kids the same way you do your H, or your MM, but you still feel love for them. And thats what it took for me to realize that I do love MM, but it doesn't have to be the 'totally commited to and devote all my life to' kind of love right now either.

JMO...HTH

Tam

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