What's with these OM, anyway?!?
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| Mon, 03-15-2004 - 4:29pm |
Some quick background info: OM and I are teachers in the school district (different schools, though) where I live. Been friends with OM for a year, physical for 3 months. OM was going back and forth about the A, felt guilty. I am M he is engaged. Several weeks ago, he told me it was over, I was devastated. I pulled back, he changed his mind. Went out last Wednesday with a group and kissed him, even though I vowed not to.
OK, now, after last Wednesday, I decided (at the good advice of some wonderful women here) to pull back even more. Well, I received several calls and e-mails over the weekend. I didn't answer any of them, except to respond to a joke he forwarded me yesterday (Sunday). Well, today, I received 5 e-mails at work and a voice mail on my cell phone after work asking me to call him when I got home, he has "stories" from work to share with me. I did respond to 2 of the e-mails because they were work-related, but haven't responded to the call yet.
Now, maybe I'm just reading into it, but I feel like he's trying to get me to call him. He also alluded in several of his e-mails to how drunk he was Saturday night, I guess trying to get me to ask him what he did this weekend, which I never did. I am kind of annoyed because I feel like there's a bit of game-playing going on here. The minute I pulled back, he increased his efforts by 100%.
In one of his e-mails today, he even suggested we go out after work, but I said I already had plans, which is true, but I wouldn't have gone anyway. When this whole thing started, we agreed that neither of us was interested in ending our current R's. We had a strong connection and wanted to explore the physical side of that connection. I felt like I was becoming too emotionally involved, and I think pulling back has helped that a bit.
Does anyone else's OM waffle back and forth like this? What should I do? I want the A to continue, but on my terms, not his. Do you think I have the "upper hand", or does no one have the upper hand in these situations?
Thanks everyone for your support and advice. I don't know what I would do without this board to come to.
:)
Circe

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PS - I like to attribute MMs quirky habits to the "y chromosome defect" - in fact, that applies to all men! They can't help it!