when 2 weeks feels like 2 years....
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| Thu, 05-13-2004 - 1:09am |
It's been such a long 2 weeks since my MM returned from vacation and he first distanced himself from me -(he tried to end it but then a day later said he made a HUGE mistake) now I have completely distanced myself from MM (when I found out he had temp moved out and his W may know he is having an EMA) he has asked me to
please talk to him - or give him some sort of sign he and I are going to be ok -
This is worse than NC - I feel awful - like he must think I never cared about him or
loved him or that I just used him in this R -
How can you tell someone they mean the world to you yet not sound like a greeting card or a cliche' ???
His W and MM are in Therapy now --- it's me who is distancing myself from this because
I feel I have to give him the space to work on his M - yet he is saying he doesn't want the space he just wants ME !!!
He always knows how to say the perfect words that go right to my heart - yet I continue to be stubborn and am forcing the "need space" for now -
He is sort of giving it to me but still he doesn't give up -
I don't know how much longer I can go before I feel I have to tell him one way or the other what I want to do - I don't want to tell him what to do and I feel I am by distancing myself -
any opinion on this would be appreciated
I don't know if I should remain distanced or realize he means what he says (he has never failed me with his words before) and just hope we can pick up where we left off -
it's been almost 8 weeks since we have had any in person contact -
Help !!!
Kikki

I respect you for giving the distance to MM. Working on repairing a marriage is no easy task, I know this first hand. (My H found out about MM). Anyhow, I believe that your MM may truly feel the same way; however, either he REALLY wants to work the marriage out or he is just going along with it to say he did everything to make it work but in the end, it did not. I assume he must know how you feel? Maybe not. If you really love this man and he loves you, then again, give him the space but do not totally shut him out. I am one who believes that one's spouse may not necessarily be the person one is meant to share life with. And I know that does not sound ethical or moral but if you and your MM are to be together.... you will be.
8 weeks w/o face to face contact. Hang in there K. I am going on 3 wks as of today. I miss my MM so much and although I think anyone on the board here who knows my story thinks my MM is a jerk and not worth my time, I still want him. His arms around me even for a moment would be wonderful.
I will keep you my thoughts <<>>.
v.