When Do You Know You Need To End It?

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When Do You Know You Need To End It?
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Mon, 11-24-2008 - 10:01am

Hi, long-time lurker, infrequent poster.

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Mon, 11-24-2008 - 11:10am
Once the relationship brings you more sadness than happiness and you aren't getting what you want or need
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Registered: 08-31-2008
Tue, 11-25-2008 - 10:07am

Gal,

Being clingy and needy is never a good idea in any relationship, men do not like that. A is very different set of things. You both are in A because you want to be there - not like you have a house together, kids, bills etc. So as soon as one of the partners get tired/bored/annoyed with the arrangements, A is pretty much over. It seems to me, your AP wants out. There is only one thing you can do at this point - let him go. A week or two later, he may start to miss what he had with you and come back. But right now you are pushing him farther away, and this will never work. Make yourself scarce. Make him miss you.

(((Hugs)))

Vivacious

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Tue, 11-25-2008 - 11:57am

I have gotten clingy and more needy as time has gone on.

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Tue, 11-25-2008 - 1:52pm

gal_hoping, i will hijack your thread .thanks.

tygerzize,
congrates to you on getting back with your AP.We have such similar stories that i am prompted to ask you something which is not there in my A.

Your family,friends,son know about your AP and support ,thats very lucky of you but dont you think its making your guy prone to dday? if it slips out from someones mouth to someone who doesnt need to know,wont his image of being a good H,get tarnished? i am not saying that your people will do it but walls have ears,i hope you KWIM and take it in a positive stride.
Does he approve of your people knowing about A? How did you convince your people ?
When you go to parties etc. and people who dont know about your AP, what do you say about having a bf? dont they try to fix you with someone.I am having a hard time with this.

You dont have to answer if its too much of personal info.

TIA.

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Tue, 11-25-2008 - 8:59pm

Your family,friends,son know about your AP and support ,thats very lucky of you but dont you think its making your guy prone to dday? it could get him closer to DDAY, we had this talk yesterday while we had dinner together...we both know it's been a little over a year and we are both aware that there will be a time that he very well may have to make a decision if i don't do it for him...get me

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss