When do YOU...

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Registered: 04-15-2003
When do YOU...
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Fri, 08-22-2003 - 4:21pm
1) get to see your MM or OM?

2) talk to your MM or OM?

3) get quality time with your MM or OM?

I tried this in another post but it was buried by other questions so let's see if this gets better response! :)


Right now I pretty much see my MM every day of the week because we work together - but as far as time together - maybe once a week! :( If I didn't atleast get to see him daily I'm not sure I could handle it!? I'm curious to know how the rest of you deal with only getting to see your MM/OM periodically - because that might be my situation before long! :(

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Registered: 05-24-2003
Sat, 08-23-2003 - 10:40am
I work with my MM, also. We work for the same company, in different office locations, in neighboring cities. On some projects, he is my boss.

When do I,

1) get to see my MM- sometimes every 2 weeks..others once a month or so.

2) talk to my MM- almost every weekday. Hardly ever on weekends unless we both have work to do in our offices. Usually, that never happens at the same time.

3) get quality time with MM- usually every 2 weeks. We get a hotel room midway and spend an afternoon from checkin time to around 6 and come back early the following morning until checkout. Our jobs are flexible, we pretty much set our own hours, are typically working away from the office a lot and work A TON of hours due to the nature of our profession (as salaried employees) so "stealing" company time is never an issue. Also, we get a few business trips a couple of times a year for a week or so at a time that we can spend together.

It is hard working in different locations, but I think that seeing him everyday would be much harder. I worry now that our passion for each other must be evident to everyone who sees us. I can't imagine having to be professional around him everyday.

Hugs RH

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 08-23-2003 - 12:22pm
1) get to see your MM or OM? **most days

2) talk to your MM or OM? **most days

3) get quality time with your MM or OM? **Depends on how either of us feel - sometimes a few times a week, sometimes a few times a month.

I think I am experiencing the opposite to you, Poster, in that I am not used to seeing MM often, but have done lately - too much, lol.

I think that EMAs, like any relationship, goes through stages/changes. Consider that if it changes from your seeing MM almost daily to not-so-often, that it is just a stage to acclimate yourself to, to get used to.

Of course you can handle it if you want to remain in the relationship. Remember that just because you don't see each other as often that he will be thinking of you just as you think of him. Fill the void of missing MM with something new and challenging to concentrate on so you aren't just thinking of him. Enjoy the anticipation of seeing him again. Spend more quality time on *you*!

I'm sorry I don't have the experience to help you out. I hope you find that if the change does occur, you'll be able to adjust, and be happy.

Meow

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