When does the honeymoon end?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2010
When does the honeymoon end?
10
Wed, 08-04-2010 - 1:36pm

I have been posting a little, reading a lot, on this board.


I know we are all in a unique situation we most likely never expected to be in.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2008
Wed, 08-04-2010 - 3:53pm

so happy you are enjoying the upside of the A. its great when it good.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2010
Wed, 08-04-2010 - 5:14pm

Hmm...hard to say, but I think usually they go downhill sooner than that.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-12-2010
Wed, 08-04-2010 - 6:57pm
I have been with my MM just shy of 2 years (Oct) and we are still in the honeymoon stage I believe.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-28-2004
Wed, 08-04-2010 - 7:24pm

I was kind of active on this board 7 years ago when my affair first started. Now I check in a few times a year, like now. :-)


We're still in a honeymoon phase after 7 years in and now, we're in a LD relationship since I relo'd 1,200 miles away for a new job 2 years ago. Both of us are married. He has young children; mine are in college.


We fit. We just do and

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

januaryjuly

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2010
Wed, 08-04-2010 - 7:26pm
lasvegasdiva:
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2010
Wed, 08-04-2010 - 7:30pm
Thanks janejosie :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2010
Wed, 08-04-2010 - 7:34pm
Kitty, we sound a lot alike.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2009
Wed, 08-04-2010 - 9:00pm
I always say the best laid plans are the happiest plans! LOL We planned to wait 6 months or more before dating publicly, but that meant we couldn't be together much in private either because of the children. I never, ever had a plan to divorce my xh, but I also never had a plan to have an A, so whatever that means. When my M ended, it did so in it's own right. We didn't sit down and talk about how long I'd stay or when I would leave. Frankly, we didn't even realize it was an A for a long time, because we both thought of an A as a mostly sexual relationship and we weren't having sex! So anyway, my point is, we were really friends first, and we've been together since my xh moved out, so right at a year now. wow, I didn't even realize that until I typed it out for you! LOL I still fall more in love with him every day, and he tells me the same. We've had some nasty blow out fights, that were just misunderstandings on hormones, I was probably way out of line. This R I have with him is unlike any I've had before. They kept saying on this board that I was lost in a fog and when the fog clears, I'll see things as they are. I'm surprised you weren't told the same thing. Anyway, either I'm still in a fog and in an open, public relationship with my honey, or I was never in a fog. Things are still good. I just couldn't lay out a plan to decieve my xh for 2 years and then wait another year to be with my honey publicly. I think if you are gonna get out, making the plan to get out, then just get out. Do what's right for your spouse, let him go, don't keep him in your life for your own convienence and use him.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-07-2009
Thu, 08-05-2010 - 2:46am
Two years in and it just gets better--the intimacy and love just grows....we've always enjoyed one another and I never thought it could be any better but when together we are just happy content and according to our friends--giddy in love. We have been lucky to have some overnights--recently four days together--and we just fit...never slept better in his life he said....we love one another--our connection is amazing.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2010
Thu, 08-05-2010 - 10:44am

I agree that it is not fair to string H along while I make plans to be with AP.


That being said...,the needs of my kids come before the needs of my H.