Honestly, only you know when enough is enough. Right now would be the time to let him know that you are supportive of everything that he is doing. He may need space as this IS a very difficult decision to make. There are so many things to consider when leaving a M.
A suggestion that I offer is very hard and not easily done. If it were me9just knowing the bare minimum that you have shared) I would tell him that you are going to back away and not have contact with him so that he has time to focus on what he needs to do....whether that be getting out of the M or staying put. If he decides to stay and work on his M, well then you have your answer. If he goes through with it, I'm sure he will call when all is finalized or before. And if not....then I guess you have your answer there too. Take some control of the situation. Don't allow him to have all the say so in how the R will work.
I wish you luck....I know you must feel so tired of this already. J
I know that you must really be hurting right now. Five years is a long time. Have you ever considered the fact that perhaps he has already went back to his W. I mean I know that you really don't want to hear that, but having been there myself. I recognize the symptoms.
The lack of time together w/ the return to religion has really led me to believe that perhaps he has flip flopped, and went back to her, and he doesn't want a confrontation w/ you. He is probably hoping that you'll get tired of his crap and give up. JMO.
Whatever happens I hope you can through it ok. Good luck.
Honestly, only you know when enough is enough. Right now would be the time to let him know that you are supportive of everything that he is doing. He may need space as this IS a very difficult decision to make. There are so many things to consider when leaving a M.
A suggestion that I offer is very hard and not easily done. If it were me9just knowing the bare minimum that you have shared) I would tell him that you are going to back away and not have contact with him so that he has time to focus on what he needs to do....whether that be getting out of the M or staying put. If he decides to stay and work on his M, well then you have your answer. If he goes through with it, I'm sure he will call when all is finalized or before. And if not....then I guess you have your answer there too. Take some control of the situation. Don't allow him to have all the say so in how the R will work.
I wish you luck....I know you must feel so tired of this already.
J
I know that you must really be hurting right now. Five years is a long time. Have you ever considered the fact that perhaps he has already went back to his W. I mean I know that you really don't want to hear that, but having been there myself. I recognize the symptoms.
The lack of time together w/ the return to religion has really led me to believe that perhaps he has flip flopped, and went back to her, and he doesn't want a confrontation w/ you. He is probably hoping that you'll get tired of his crap and give up. JMO.
Whatever happens I hope you can through it ok. Good luck.