where is the best place?

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Registered: 07-21-2009
where is the best place?
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Tue, 07-21-2009 - 8:55am

Hello All- new here and am having an A and need to find places to "see" each other.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Tue, 07-21-2009 - 1:58pm
I am SW with MM , so for me to be seen at any place with anyone is not a problem.so,my AP chooses the places where he feels safe like coffee shops far from work/home area,a kind which is not very popular.We meet in parking lots ( our first kiss was there!),'chance' meeting in malls ( get to move around if only for few minutes), in the escalators ( go up and down from top to bottom floor),very rarely at my house( a co-worker lives close by),watch a movie when it gets a bit old as theaters are close to vacant.These are just of the few ideas.
since we work together,we get to see one another everyday and being in close proximity without being able to talk openly is still very fulfilling.knowing that he is around,i can talk to him about whatever i want to,is very satisfying.And well,cellphones are always there! We both cant live w/o being able to see each other physically.
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Registered: 06-18-2009
Tue, 07-21-2009 - 2:46pm
There's no such thing as safe places to meet. It's like playing roulette. You take a chance every time.... So, maybe a good time to weigh if what you're risking to lose is worth it.
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Registered: 05-02-2004
Tue, 07-21-2009 - 7:12pm

It’s absolutely perfect and so simple to just meet single guys at their place.

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Registered: 01-09-2009
Wed, 07-22-2009 - 2:55am

The best place......hmm. Best place is the place where you cant see him, cant meet him, cant have any contact with him.
I know, I got some nerve to say this. Since I was in an A with a MM myself.
But looking back now to all the struggles, the hurt, the confusion, anger, frustration, the constant back and forth........
You get my drift.
If you can avoid getting into the A, do it.
Here is why:
If he is a MM, you are SECOND.
If you are a MW, think of how you would feel if you discovered your H was cheating on you.
Certainly you have to do what is right for yourself. But before you jump into anything, read the different stories here and on the Healing Board......that alone should make you want to say, no way am I doing this.
Sorry, might not be what you want to hear at this point.
I posted my story here as well and got a few comments from goddess that at the moment hurt. But looking back now, she makes perfect sense.
I am not bitter, not yet.
If you are up for something that can hurt you really badly, go for it. If you still have clear moments without being all giddy and excited about the prospect of getting with this person.......use those and walk away from it. While you still can, while nobody has gotten hurt yet.
Cause SOMEBODY WILL GET HURT!
My A has now messed up 3 lifes, ....
Mine, I am now being treated for an eating disorder, therapy for the emotional stuff, have lost 20lbs, pushed all my friends away cause I forever defended my A and AP.
His, he has lost weight, is now marked with being a cheater after having lived a pretty straight and good life, totally confused, being pulled in different directions.......
Hers, she suspects and approached him about his weekend away. But he wont talk about it. Her self confidence is suffering, she is livid, hurt, upset and this will always stand between them.

Good luck.........I wish you insight and many clear moments. Dont end up suffering like so many of us.