Where do you go? What do you do?
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Where do you go? What do you do?
| Fri, 08-20-2010 - 1:36pm |
With AP?
While we could go to a hotel - neither of us are ready for that. Normally we meet at a random spot, but it's hard most times.
When our project starts in the fall it will be a lot easier, but for now it is quite hard.

Why aren't you "ready" for a hotel simplie? If you're ready to have sex, why is a hotel intimidating?
My first AP was single, but he had custody of a high school aged child that was home a lot, when not in school. Even he and I used to use a hotel once in awhile because of that.
My OM now is single, no kids, no problem. :-)
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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For me it makes it that much real. Yes, I need to face this, but I'm not ready to have to explain the charges because the fact of the matter is I would most likely pay. I come from a pretty well to do family and AP doesn't. I wouldn't mind paying, it's the explanation of charges. And it's not the explanation of charges to H because he doesn't have access to my "familial" account that I have access to. It's the explanation of charges to my father - who still pays my credit card bill monthly, as well as my siblings.
And it's an internal issue - seems so dirty. I dunno.
u could pay cash for a room. and ask him to split the bill. it's what ap#1 and i did on occassion. we're all on a budget, right? ;)
otherwise, i had the fortune of his wife traveling about every three months to see fmaily out of state so we visited his marital bed as well.
and then there were the times of the drives along the river, the dark empty floor of a multi-level parking structures, and the empty parking lots. i can't say i'm proud of those moments now that i look back at it all, but the thrill and his touch during those times were hot, Hot, HOT.
it has taken ap#2 and i 2 years to get to full IC, and -i am not proud- but i have a minivan, and know of secluded river spots. sounds so desperate huh? yikes! otherwise, i don't know what else to do, it's like we're hot desperate high school students -- where did we all go then?
good luck with it all!!
Can't you take a cash advance on the card? Then you could explain it any way you like, it wouldn't show up as "No tell motel" LOL.
BTW, even though your AP is less well off, I think I would expect him to pay or at least pay half. I'm way more "well off" than my OM but he always pays for lunch. It would make him feel awful, I think, if I paid all the time.
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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he can pay for it on credit and you can pay him back in cash..
as for feeling not ready, if you are not there emotionally for a hotel meet, it's best to give it some more time.