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Whew! New Here... My song...
| Thu, 02-19-2004 - 6:18pm |
Hello to all!
I am in an A w/a man that has been in a LTR (15yrs) w/a woman. Never M, but says he stayed b/c of their now 12yr old child. He says he is unattracted to her,(she gained weight) but they have a co-dependant relationship. Basically she takes care of him, financially, etc. He went to college (she supported him financially) and is now starting his own business...so he is more than broke... He says since we met 7 months ago he stopped having sex w/her... He is surrounded by pillows! The goof!
In the beginning he pursued me w/a passion. He said he wanted a life w/me. That he wanted me to open up to him... He talked about how he would propose marriage to me... Then later he said he was sorry... he lost his head, etc... He is so lost... We tell each other we love each other, although I think he is a little uncomfortable w/this b/c he feels he is not able to be committed to our relationship other than seeing each other every week. He says he needs help to become an independant person and still be okay w/moving out, but he feels trapped by his new business and financial situation. He's affaid of being on his own. I told him I want to wait for him. Now, admittedly I am wonder if I should have said this... We have taken "breaks" b4, but they didn't last long... He just isn't one to "deal" w/stuff. Neither of them are really. His, I'll call her W, b/c really that is the role she fills, knows he has been unfaithful b4, but does not know about us. Can this end anyway but badly for me? Sometimes I wish I could tell her and make him acknowledge my existence. But then, why hurt her unnecessarily? Whew! I don't know what I am saying...
He is a very caring person... many times, all I have to do is ask for something and he does it. I feel his problems are bigger than me. But,I am not prepared to let him go. I don't know if I am helping him by sticking around or not. Is this too much information? -Ariel
I am in an A w/a man that has been in a LTR (15yrs) w/a woman. Never M, but says he stayed b/c of their now 12yr old child. He says he is unattracted to her,(she gained weight) but they have a co-dependant relationship. Basically she takes care of him, financially, etc. He went to college (she supported him financially) and is now starting his own business...so he is more than broke... He says since we met 7 months ago he stopped having sex w/her... He is surrounded by pillows! The goof!
In the beginning he pursued me w/a passion. He said he wanted a life w/me. That he wanted me to open up to him... He talked about how he would propose marriage to me... Then later he said he was sorry... he lost his head, etc... He is so lost... We tell each other we love each other, although I think he is a little uncomfortable w/this b/c he feels he is not able to be committed to our relationship other than seeing each other every week. He says he needs help to become an independant person and still be okay w/moving out, but he feels trapped by his new business and financial situation. He's affaid of being on his own. I told him I want to wait for him. Now, admittedly I am wonder if I should have said this... We have taken "breaks" b4, but they didn't last long... He just isn't one to "deal" w/stuff. Neither of them are really. His, I'll call her W, b/c really that is the role she fills, knows he has been unfaithful b4, but does not know about us. Can this end anyway but badly for me? Sometimes I wish I could tell her and make him acknowledge my existence. But then, why hurt her unnecessarily? Whew! I don't know what I am saying...
He is a very caring person... many times, all I have to do is ask for something and he does it. I feel his problems are bigger than me. But,I am not prepared to let him go. I don't know if I am helping him by sticking around or not. Is this too much information? -Ariel

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