Which is worse?
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| Fri, 05-07-2010 - 8:02pm |
Not hearing form your AP for 2 weeks? Or getting a drive by IM at 4 o'clock on a Friday that says "Hi! Cant talk but have a good weekend"
Oh and that was the first communication since the Friday before that basically said the same thing!......ARRGHHHHH!!!
Okay we did have a long talk about a month ago about how I would like it if we could talk more. This stemmed from the two weeks of NC I got as my gift from him after we were physical for the first time. I told him I didn't need or want to talk every day but a shout out every now and then would be nice. And that's exactly what he is doing! I starting to think his wife has him trained to do exactly as she instructs..lol
So here is my deal....I want him to want to talk to me. Not because he feels obligated to just to stay out of trouble and keep the physical part going. Make sense???
So...I'm not up for nagging about this. I'm thinking that I will just start my own little NC game. Lets see how he likes it. He will come sniffing around eventually.
Lets see if A: That I can stay off my IM for a week and B: if he even notices. Ya'know, I really hate this push-pull crapolla!!!

I don't get, I read about it all the time here, and still it doesn't make any sense to me, as in my affair, my x has never done anything like that - he was always so humble and grateful and so much more loving and affectionate AFTER we'd have sex. I honestly don't think I'd be able to cope with him going NC on me after I'd give to him my precious body. Really, this is just sad.
No advice here, just ((hugs)).
Gone
I'm leaning towards agreeing with Gone.
anotherseyes
Hi Another
I totally understand what your saying, and in a normal world I would have no problem saying how I feel, and I'm not much for playing games either. But A's are not normal. I'm trying to be very careful with what I say and how I say it because I can have quite a sharp tongue in my real world. Plus we just had this conversation last month about contact and communication and he seemed he understood and was apologetic. I dont want to keep harping about it.
My thought is if I just take a break and step back and not be available for a bit I can get a handle on what I want. Not that I'm sending him a bunch of text or emails everyday,I'm not. I'm just on my IM waiting for him....So I go offline and not wait, doesn't make much difference right? He is not contacting me anyway.
I will add that the last time I told a AP exactly how I felt he walked away....And it wasn't a "I'm really following for you" conversation that made him walk. I told him I was getting tired of him treating me like a prostitute and if he continued to do so I wanted to be paid for my services....so yeah that A blew up in a million pieces.
Actually I guess I'm a little envious of the MW/SW who have AP's who email and text everyday or a couple times a week. I have not had that since my first AP....I miss it.
and if your now totally confused I'm on my 3rd PA. I'm a long story.lol
Believe me, I understand.
anotherseyes
This sounds very familiar to me (unfortunately).
AP and I had a long talk a few weeks ago.