who made the first A move???

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Registered: 11-26-2007
who made the first A move???
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Sat, 12-06-2008 - 10:31pm

When AP and I became physical, we were under influence of alcohol. I could not really remember how it happened, well i remembered everything except for who kissed who first. When I asked him today, he said it was me, he did not realize i did not remember. I found it a bit "disturbing", our relationship before was very professional and we were very good colleagues. He said it did not matter who made the first move and it was mutual and etc. But i really do not like the idea that I kissed him.


Does anyone care to share the stories who made the first move?

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Registered: 06-13-2006
Mon, 12-29-2008 - 1:39am

Mmmm this question brings back such a good memory.


AP and I were friends for about 3 yrs before it turned PA. I was home one day on computer and he IM'd me out of the blue. We talked this way every day for about 6 months, discovering we knew some of the same ppl. One day he asked me to lunch, and I agreed to meet him. Things remained status quo for the next 18 months, tho he did give chase. I kept declining.


Last summer he told me he had to go out of town for a week for work and I asked if I could drive to where he was one of the nights and we could have dinner together...he was very suprised I asked.


I showed up at his hotel room in my work clothes (scrubs) but had a little black dress with me. I quickly changed, we went out for eats and drinks. After the third drink he asked "should we get out of here" and I was all about leaving the bar. We went back to his room, sat on the bed and talked a little bit, and I'm not really sure who "made th first move", but it let to 5 hours of amazing sex :)


Things are still going quite well for us.

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Registered: 10-24-2008
Mon, 12-29-2008 - 2:34am
I'm not really sure what would constitute the first move in my R w/ xAP. I pulled away from him because I was terrified of what I was feeling, and he reacted strongly to that, and called me out on it. So I fessed up. It's been up hill, and down hill since then, almost 8 yrs. later. Geez, am I a knucklehead or what?!
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Registered: 05-28-2008
Mon, 12-29-2008 - 2:25pm
AP made the first move.
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Registered: 04-05-2004
Tue, 12-30-2008 - 11:23am
I love this story... I never thought of myself as someone who could "cheat" because I had a husband that had been unfaithful to me... anyway--- I worked with AP/MM and I too was M at the time, we had only been working together a few months, but from the moment I saw him there was an connection- more like a bolt of lightning! lol anyway, we had worked closely together and had become good friends, but there was this was always this flirting and underlying pull that I just couldn't deny... One night we were working late and were in the office and no one else was around and I couldn't help myself... I just walked right up to him and kissed him and luckily he
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Registered: 12-12-2008
Tue, 12-30-2008 - 5:05pm

Okay first move as in sexual?LOL.


When AP and I first met, he made the first move to touch me..we went for a drive around the town where he worked..so he could show me where he worked and etc.

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Registered: 09-17-2008
Tue, 12-30-2008 - 5:32pm

MM and I are here trying to remember who it was that made the first move, it's been so long, neither of us can completely remember.


I know we were really busy at work, and he got in to my line, then, when another line opened, he went there, and I pouted at him. Then, like the next time he came in, he gave me his number and then I gave him mine. At this point we are trying to remember which of us called whom first...At any rate we talked for a long time.


That was more than 8 years ago, and we still spend hours on the phone, when we aren't sitting next to each other talking, and stuff.


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Registered: 11-17-2008
Tue, 12-30-2008 - 6:38pm

This is a great post!

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Registered: 11-21-2008
Tue, 12-30-2008 - 7:07pm
Well, the first "move" in so far as contact was AP. He got my cell # at a work meeting. He texted me first. After a few months, the texts turned sexual- that was MY doing. :) The admission of attraction was mutual but the physical was also my doing. I mean, we both knew it would happen when it happened cuz we had talked about it- but once we were alone in my hotel room I just went right to him, sat on his lap and started kissing him. It's all good from there! :)
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Registered: 11-26-2007
Tue, 12-30-2008 - 7:33pm

I have not done the proper statistical analysis, but it looks like women make first move more often.....

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Registered: 06-13-2006
Wed, 12-31-2008 - 2:33am

I'm just wondering if all us "move makers" are in the same age area?


I'm 35