that is just amazing. I can't imagine the life you must lead, but I think your dh is the bigger man making sure your ap is ok and that you are ok. WOW!
It sounds as if you have a somewhat "open" relationship. Have the two of you ever talked about really "opening" it up, and allowing other relationships for both of you? I've been involved with message boards where there were "poly-amorous" couples. They differ from "swingers" in that both people are allowed to have more than one LOVING relationship. With "swingers" it seems that only sexual relationships are allowed. One poly-amorous woman who posted there used to have her boyfriend over quite often and the three of them would watch tv - or her H would invite his g/f over too! It seemed every "open" couple had rules of their own. You can still "cheat" in an open R like that - if you sneak or don't follow the set up rules that you have.
What's really interesting is that these "poly" people were the MOST condemning of affairs. They felt that if you wanted another R, you should offer your spouse the same thing, and that your spouse had a right to know everything about their R to decide what THEY wanted with full knowledge of the truth of the situation.
They made me think about a lot of things.
I've always felt that if I were a young adult right now, I would probably seek that kind of relationship from the beginning.
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It sounds as if you have a somewhat "open" relationship. Have the two of you ever talked about really "opening" it up, and allowing other relationships for both of you? I've been involved with message boards where there were "poly-amorous" couples. They differ from "swingers" in that both people are allowed to have more than one LOVING relationship. With "swingers" it seems that only sexual relationships are allowed. One poly-amorous woman who posted there used to have her boyfriend over quite often and the three of them would watch tv - or her H would invite his g/f over too! It seemed every "open" couple had rules of their own. You can still "cheat" in an open R like that - if you sneak or don't follow the set up rules that you have.
What's really interesting is that these "poly" people were the MOST condemning of affairs. They felt that if you wanted another R, you should offer your spouse the same thing, and that your spouse had a right to know everything about their R to decide what THEY wanted with full knowledge of the truth of the situation.
They made me think about a lot of things.
I've always felt that if I were a young adult right now, I would probably seek that kind of relationship from the beginning.
You've got a lot of choices. I
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