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| Thu, 04-02-2009 - 5:14pm |
Some of you know me, so it feels very odd "introducing" myself. So, in lieu of that I thought maybe a roll call so that we can either become reacquainted or get to know each other.
A little about me (at least the Reader's Digest version): Married ten years, currently divorced. Had two affairs during my ten year marriage. Second affair ended in the worst possible discovery and after a two year period of trying to rebuild my H and I divorced. Shortly after that my AP got in contact. He too had "left" his W and wanted to try for a relationship. We did. For about three years. Two of which we lived together. He moved out abruptly and is currently (as far as I know) living a life of bliss with his W.
MAS has always been a special place for me. I met the people who are my very best friends here. I was cl here once before, so if you are so inclined, you can search the archives and learn more than you probably wanted to know.
So who's next? Chime in and tell us a little bit about yourself and your situation.

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Hi..
Ive been coming to ivillage for ages now. Have used a fair amount of the boards as well for help and advice. And I am now an everyday user.
Ive been married 4 years but with him much longer. And weve had more downs than ups. And its got to the point of me asking myself why Im still here. I get no affection from him, unless he wants it.And I will not give in. Im not here for when he wants me. Its been mentioned on these boards
Hi Shadowz!
It sounds like you have been through a lot...to say the least!
Still here Shad, I actually just posted this in another thread. i think it would fit in here too.
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlmyaffair&msg=55995.7&ctx=128
Really, really glad to see you back.
"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."
- Ramona L. Anderson
Does anyone call you Glo anymore? Cause you are always Glo to me! I am happy to be back...thanks for the awesome welcome!
Welcome back.
i'm in and out these days.
i came to MAS three and a half years ago - just as my affair began. i was very active here for about a year, somewhat active for another year then found the tone had changed and my friends had fled. so now i check in to see what attitude prevails. if you read back over 2300 posts, you will see my attitude has not changed one jot over all that time. affairs happen for different reasons, they are not all the same, and this board is meant to be a place to accept that premise. if you can't accept the basic premise that affairs happen to good people then you don't belong here in my opinion.
my AP and i are both married over 25 years with 2 almost grown children. we met through work and we travel together. neither of us ever considered an affair before this - a combined 50 years of fidelity. if you can add, you will calculate that we are "old" by many standards. but he is my bliss and our love feels young.
sometimes i feel like Benjamin Button - i was always the Good Girl and this affair is totally out-of-character for me. perhaps that's why i defend the right of MAS to exist. i don't see it as a Bad Girls Club. it's totally unique and my friends from here - who i would have rejected in my eariler life - have saved me many times over.
and i still have the keys to the MAS Bus hidden in the Cave.
Mrs.
And do you still have the 2x4 as well? (She asked hopefully)...
I've been here awaiting your triumphant return.
So good to have Shadowz back! Cubbies here
Hi shadowz and congratulations on making cl,
Trixie here and I have been an OW, MW, WS, BS you name it :) I was married for almost 10 yrs, had several A's during my unhappy M, got D 5 years ago; I had an exit A that turned into a RL relationship, we lived together for 2 years and are still very good friends. I lived through 2 D-Days during my M as well.
I have just come out of another 3-year A with a very selfish and manipulative man, the experience has not been a good one. I am S right now and taking a breather from men :) No more A's for me now, but with my extended and varied experience with infidelity I'm pretty much BTDT and I think I can help advise those who are in an A :)
best wishes,
trixie
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