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| Thu, 04-02-2009 - 5:14pm |
Some of you know me, so it feels very odd "introducing" myself. So, in lieu of that I thought maybe a roll call so that we can either become reacquainted or get to know each other.
A little about me (at least the Reader's Digest version): Married ten years, currently divorced. Had two affairs during my ten year marriage. Second affair ended in the worst possible discovery and after a two year period of trying to rebuild my H and I divorced. Shortly after that my AP got in contact. He too had "left" his W and wanted to try for a relationship. We did. For about three years. Two of which we lived together. He moved out abruptly and is currently (as far as I know) living a life of bliss with his W.
MAS has always been a special place for me. I met the people who are my very best friends here. I was cl here once before, so if you are so inclined, you can search the archives and learn more than you probably wanted to know.
So who's next? Chime in and tell us a little bit about yourself and your situation.

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Welcome back Shadow.
Colorunner here - found MAS a few years after my AP and I had already divorced and moved in together.
Hi Shadowz!
I have been with my AP for about four years, but am new to the board.
HI.
You said your D day was the worst possible...what happened? (if you don't mind me asking).
I've been with AP for 2 years....this is not my 1st A though. The 1st one I did not fall in love. I am totally head over heels for AP though, and he tells me he feels the same!
Edited 7/26/2009 10:40 pm ET by goblinqueen79
The_other_me~
I have lots to say on this thread, to the other posters, but I started with your question. I went searching through the archives and (finally, whew!) found the post I wrote over a year ago detailing my d-day.
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlmyaffair&msg=51676.16
All~ It is late here now...but will be back in the morning to finish my thoughts on this thread.
I am a SW with a M AP.Lots of ups and downs since the last year we started.His M was over and was going to file D when the DDay happened in the worst possible way.Now the W wants to give their M a chance.My AP has small kids ,i have none.He is staying for the kids now as the W has threatend to gain full custody of kids if he files now ( to be with me )and bring his A in the open ( that is in the D).My AP has completely checked out of his M though.
Our A is on and will remain so.I am not dating.One of my friends knows about my A and has been pushing me to date other available guys ,believe me, i tried but i just cant bring myself to do it.Fate ,destiny or my luck,i am not leaving this A even if i have to remain in it for indefinite period.
I do have lonely times but what makes me keep going is that even if my AP is with 'her',is mine.Since the W knows about me now,AP still contacts me on weekends and we always feel connected.I wouldnt be able to do NC on weekends.I once told my AP about this feeling of 'out of sight/contact ,out of mind' thing,since then he has made a point to find time for me.I cant ask for more.I am happy to be in the place i am .
I might sound crazy but i am content being the OW though my AP doesnt treat me that way.
Hello Shadowz and congratulations
Well ive been married for 12 years with H for 18. AP been m for 24 yrs. We both have children. We are both in the same profession as Therapists (children). Been in the A for approx 19 - 20 months. Started off just chatting and then meeting for a coffee and then from a coffee to a long stroll in park and then totally being bawled over with one another.
I Love my H but no longer in love with him, ive told him this and we have separate rooms at home. AP and I are trying to plan on being together but I have many a hurdles in my way of wich i have recently revealed in a post on here. My ap keeps telling me that its his quest to be with me and will do anything and help me through anything to help us get their.
I dont often reply to posts as I dont feel sometimes I can give a emphatic reply as I have not really experienced any issues concerning my AP and im totally happy and relaxed with our relationship and the way its going and how we feel. Their are far more people out their that have BTDT to give a more understanding and supportive response from personal experience, of which
"be yourself, disguise not, for your a truly unique beautiful being"
Mrs.-
I cannot Thank-you enough for making the comment of... "affairs happen to good people"
I've always considered myself a good person as well as I see my AP
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