Who's here?

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Who's here?
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Thu, 04-02-2009 - 5:14pm

Some of you know me, so it feels very odd "introducing" myself. So, in lieu of that I thought maybe a roll call so that we can either become reacquainted or get to know each other.

A little about me (at least the Reader's Digest version): Married ten years, currently divorced. Had two affairs during my ten year marriage. Second affair ended in the worst possible discovery and after a two year period of trying to rebuild my H and I divorced. Shortly after that my AP got in contact. He too had "left" his W and wanted to try for a relationship. We did. For about three years. Two of which we lived together. He moved out abruptly and is currently (as far as I know) living a life of bliss with his W.

MAS has always been a special place for me. I met the people who are my very best friends here. I was cl here once before, so if you are so inclined, you can search the archives and learn more than you probably wanted to know.

So who's next? Chime in and tell us a little bit about yourself and your situation.

~Shadowz
~Shadowz

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Registered: 01-12-2009
Wed, 04-08-2009 - 11:37am

Yay for Oldlove.

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Registered: 07-18-2007
Wed, 04-08-2009 - 2:22pm

Oh my goodness...it is good to see some familiar looking screen names out there! Oldlove! Good to hear you're doing well.... I've thought of you now and then. Shadowz, you belong in this role. I've always admired how you could dish out the hard stuff and still be caring. Good to see you back!


I lurk every now an then. I started coming to MAS in early 2007 and boy was I mess! Not only was I struggling with the A I was in, but I had an emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive H. Notice the past tense of that...had. I've moved out and in the process of filing for divorce. I would have never had the strength to do it without my very good friends here! StbxH is still doing everything he can to manipulate me into coming back to him but I'm standing strong. And every day I get stronger! It's so liberating!!!


I'm still in my A. It's been nearly 4 years now and I'm just as in love with him now as ever. But he's a cake eater. A self admitted cake eater, no less. I am desperately trying to break free of him and the spell I've casted upon myself. The A is no good for me, he has no intention of leaving his W, and it interferes with my ability to try having a healthy R with other men. I'm getting there...it may take a while, but I'll do it eventually. :)


To those of you that are "new" to Affairland, tread lightly. Btrue is a success story. (Love ya, Btrue!) and quite frankly, I'm jealous. ;) But her story and others like it are an exception to the rule. Most of us will be in our A, wishing and hoping that it will some day be an real R just to find out we've wasted so many years wishing and hoping. If the A is good for you and you're comfortable with where you are, good for you! Someone once told me (and I'm paraphrasing) that when the A is more bad than good for you, it's time to get out.


Hugs and kisses to all! Good to see the "old-timers"!

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Registered: 08-19-2008
Wed, 04-08-2009 - 5:14pm

Wow! Oldlove, nice to see you. I often wonder about you and your AP's situation with the cancer. My AP/BF's bladder cancer is gone for now. He had a very invasive surgery two years ago. I don't know if you still remember me telling about it

Anyway, nice to see you again.

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"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."


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Registered: 04-11-2005
Thu, 04-09-2009 - 3:15am

Oldlove, I'm

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Registered: 04-11-2005
Thu, 04-09-2009 - 3:43am

Hi Mrs, just have to say how happy I am to see you back here

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Registered: 04-11-2005
Thu, 04-09-2009 - 4:24am

Since I've just posted to two others, guess I should go ahead and introduce myself.

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Registered: 08-08-2005
Thu, 04-09-2009 - 11:27am

awwww, thanks.

glad you came out of lurking. and glad you shared your story.

Mrs.

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Registered: 03-19-2009
Thu, 04-09-2009 - 12:48pm

HI all,


Im bascially new here. Been in my affair for 61/2 years but just recently my MM became a singleOM. I am married, not leaving my M and he knows this.

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Registered: 10-10-2006
Sun, 04-12-2009 - 9:37pm
Thank you for taking time to reply. That was sweet. It's always nice to be remembered. I'll definitely hang out here a little more often.

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