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| Sun, 09-27-2009 - 3:53am |
I am new here and posted my story in detail. As I read through a lot of your posts, it made me come up with a lot of questions that maybe some of you can help me with - are all affairs like this? Also,

Why does it seem like the men we have an affair with put us #1 in the beginning - to the point where they are answer to their wives for us and now several months into the affair - he is answer to me about his wife.
" but its not so easy to just go back to your husband and forget the man that you loved for about a year so madly, deeply."
Oh Jen, I know. Believe me, I know. I was with my MM for 5.5 years. I ended it in June of this year. I distanced myself from my very caring, kind husband all that time. And now....now I am struggling to get back there. Not sure I ever will. But it's taken me over three months to begin to even feel affection for my husband. I don't think I will ever feel for him what I used to. And that is totally MY fault. You cannot bring a third party into a marriage and not expect the fallout to be disastrous.
I'm so sorry you're hurting.
Why does it seem like the men we have an affair with put us #1 in the beginning - to the point where they are answer to their wives for us and now several months into the affair - he is answer to me about his wife.