WHY AM I JEALOUS!!!

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Registered: 01-30-2009
WHY AM I JEALOUS!!!
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Tue, 03-16-2010 - 10:35am

So me and XAP are sort of back in an EA after a year apart. Yesterday things got heavy again on MSN and we spoke all day about "wanting" each other bla bla bla. So today in work XAP is doing his usual and acting very cool. Now he arrives back into the office talking about the dinner he is cooking for his girlf....and I feel like crying my heart out with jealousy :( I feel so cheap and worthless now and its all my fault. WTH is wrong with me!


He is all over me like a rash one day then the next he is a cold as ice...and why the hell do i keep falling for it!!! The thing with him

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 12:12pm

You're jealous because it's normal to be jealous when you're emotionally involved with someone, whether there is actual sex or not.

If he always runs hot and cold, then you have to expect that to continue. You know that old saying about not being able to change anyone, you can only change your reaction to them and what they do.

Maybe if you "expect" him to act this way it won't hurt as much. But I wouldn't count on that. Ask yourself if this is the way you really want to be treated? Can you put up with this forever? If not - cut it off with him - it might actually feel good (at first anyway).

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Tue, 03-16-2010 - 12:23pm

i totally expect this carry on from him but why do i keep allowing him to do this to me!! I know that while it may feel great to be adored and complimented by him it feels soooo bad to be ignored and treated coldly the next day. I honestly feel my heart breaking...i could cry here :(


Im just dissappointed in myself for letting him back him and so upset that he thinks so little of me that he can treat me like that. I think he is loving the fact that I am falling for him again. I'd say its doing wonders for his ego.

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Wed, 03-17-2010 - 8:19am
If someone could come up with an "indifferent" pill they'd make a fortune! I'm sorry for your pain gal. I wish I could wave a wand and make you indifferent - but that's a long road that takes a lot of time, unfortunately.
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