Why did I want to believe him???

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2003
Why did I want to believe him???
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Mon, 12-29-2003 - 12:15am
Hi Ladies

Just to introduce myself a bit before asking a question, I ended the A 5 years ago was in it for 18 months.He is married to the same woman, I am still married as well.

At the time my M was in very bad shape and I needed a friend and believed he was one, in time I learned he really was not one, I thought he was a nice guy ,guess again right.

I guess time has given me a prespective that is not that common when you are in the A.

The Question I would like answered is : If the MM is cheating on his wife lieing to her, scheeming toget together with the OW and in some cases spending family assets on her how could "I" or anyone else convince are selfs that he is a NICE OR DECENT person.

If it was "MY" or your husband doing this to "ME" are you would we think of him as a nice guy, How about if your sisters husband or your best girlfriends husband was doing it to them?

I do not mean to offend anyone by this question or insult any genuine good men some may be involved with, It is just that I now know a bunch of women in this situation (B/S's) and am wondering now how "I" could have believed all the B**LSH*T he was feeding about his mean/bad/frigid wife etc, I know her now on a personal basis and she really is an ok person that most people posting here would most likly be ok with (NO she does not know about the A).

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sun, 01-04-2004 - 6:54pm
HI Fan

My age is near to retirement.

I spent my time in the fantasyland, perhaps it is time you came out and faced the real world like a real adult, by hideing behind this new name you are continueing the same old pattern of sneaking around and lieing , trust me it gets old after a while.

Mybe you should not take yourself so seriously, this is the only life your going to get better start to injoy it before it runs out, and by the way if you don't get it I don't take any of this seriously.

FREE

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Registered: 11-26-2003
Sun, 01-04-2004 - 7:45pm
HELLO FREE

I wish everybody had your sense of humor around here , IT's clear you are just haveing fun with some of the crabber people.

TRYING

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Registered: 12-31-2003
Sun, 01-04-2004 - 8:22pm
I agree with you both of you one trying Harder and Free. Free, it seems you struck a cord with Fantasy, hence the initial insult. I guess when others don't like what you have to say, they feel a need to insult. I must say, I like this discussion you have generated and what most of those who replied had to say.
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sun, 01-04-2004 - 8:57pm
HI Pen

Nice to here from you again.

I really did not go out of my way to offend anyone but I guess some people do not like to here ideas that make them uneasy or feel guilty , ideas that make you think are really the best ones to have in my opinion even if you do not accept them.

I live in the land of the free meaning I can accept or reject Ideas freely with out fear of some one shuting me down because they do not like them.

Just because I advance an Idea that is not accepted by some or goes crossgrain to someones life style does not mean that I dislike or disrespect them personaly.

It is better to jaw jaw then to war war as Sir Winston Churchill said, to bad some people cannot understand that idea.

I would rather have talked with her then to fight, but I will not surrender my freedom of speech.


FREE

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-26-2003
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 12:25am
Hello Pensive

Thank you for your kind words.

Trying

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-30-2003
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 9:53am
It was me, honey. I am fantasyhere. I don't know, you kind of remindded me of miss yoga...
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2003
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 12:53pm
Welcome to the light of day charmed

IT WAS FUN

That would br Mrs Yoga, by the way who is miss yoga is there such a person?


talk to you

FREE

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-26-2003
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 9:51pm
Hello free

I was thinking it would be nice if some one would compile all the posts at the site into a EBOOK

ANY TAKERS

TRYING

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-06-2003
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 10:03pm
OMG...is it only me who finds it so obvious that onetryingharder and free are the same person (loony person)?!! LOL Come on, unless you "two" have the same form of dyslexia...?

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Registered: 11-26-2003
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 10:11pm
SORRY DUM DUM YOU GOT IT WRONG, a brit of course.

T

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