Why do APs do this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2008
Why do APs do this?
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Wed, 10-08-2008 - 1:13pm
My AP will call and then wait sometimes a week before he calls again.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2008
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 1:24pm
How long as this A been going on? I am still new at this, but if it were my AP and he was doing this to me, I would take it that he/she wasn't as interested anymore. Maybe the H/W is making things too difficult lately. It would definitely be something that I asked about. Sorry you are going through this...I am sure its a terrible way to be feeling.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2004
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 1:28pm
My AP does the same thing.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-18-2008
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 1:33pm
Not going to be much help as to telling you why your AP does this. My AP was in contact with me all the time at the begging of our A, then stopped for a while. He sent me 1-2 texts in a week. I talked to him, told him what I want and need and now we're in contact every day again.
It turns out that he was having problems at home and at work, nothing to do with us.

Communications is very important. Just ask him. You will go crazy thinking about why he's doing something, the way he's behaving...
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-31-2008
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 1:33pm
My AP never goes without contact for so long..the longest was 4 days after we decided to break up...since we're back together, there has not been a day when I haven't heard from him...I'm sorry your AP acts like that, you must be hurting.
(((Hugs))) to you.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2008
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 1:35pm


Well, is there anything that would make it difficult for him to do those things?

If there isn't then I'm sorry but he just doesn't sound like he's that into you. I've been with my AP for a looong time and he has pretty much called/texted/emailed/chatted online to me every day in that time.

If it's making you unhappy then you need to front up and ask him.

D x

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2008
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 1:37pm
It's been an EA since the first of the year and became PA several months back.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2008
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 1:41pm

"Sometimes I feel he's just not as into me and sometimes I will remind myself that he actually told me he felt guilty. I can understand the guilt but it really hurts to think that it may be the other."

The two are not mutually exclusive. He can feel guilty whether or not he is into you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2008
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 2:54pm

Did you ever ask him why he does it?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2008
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 3:18pm
He tells me he's been busy with work and I do know this to be a fact because there have been times we were to meet up and he would call and tell me he was still with a customer but would be there once they finished.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-22-2008
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 7:34pm

My AP does the same thing.

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