Why do I do it all?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2009
Why do I do it all?
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Fri, 10-23-2009 - 9:14am

This is pretty much just a vent..just not sure where to turn or what my fool head is thinking.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-23-2008
Fri, 10-23-2009 - 10:52am

Fooledmetwice,


You are getting close to being ready for NC. It's one of the hardest things I ever did but it was necessary for sanity purposes. You will feel empowered when you draw the line in the sand and say "no more". He is walking all over you, because he can. I was in the same spot, I knew what he was doing but I just got to the point where enough was enough, my emotional state started to scare me. The longer you are in NC (no contact) the better you will feel and when you are the one to end it, it puts the ball back in your court.... Most women in affairs are not in control of the relationship as we all know... I have been 7 months NC and not looking back. I have my self esteem and dignity back, no man is worth that!


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-21-2009
Fri, 10-23-2009 - 6:35pm
Ok...so you drive up because he can't afford to buy a gas...you pay for a hotel because again he can't afford it...hey, if he can't afford seeing a woman, he should do without one! Sure sex is unbelievable...but there are plenty of men who'd give you that and actually will respect you enough to put some effort and meet you halfway in a relationship. Good luck, I think you're ready to dump his sorry @ss, because that exactly what he deserves!
**Bloodied but unbowed**