Why do they text... then disappear

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Registered: 04-11-2010
Why do they text... then disappear
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Wed, 06-30-2010 - 4:49am

Gawd this part angers me. Whats with that?


The nice text at 930am -good morning, pet name and hope you have a good day. Of course I respond with an equally friendly but casual response. I send another later in the day to confirm plans we have for Friday.


But of course- Kayser Solze has disappeared! He should work for CIA.


Bloody hell.

You are what you consistently do
You are what you consistently do
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Registered: 02-05-2010
Wed, 06-30-2010 - 8:21am
Unless W appears my AP is pretty good at responding at least within an hour or so, or with a reason when he does ... he will get back to you EVENTuALLY !! ((hugs )) H&Y

Life is too Short ... A. since Mar 29th 2009

 

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Registered: 05-29-2010
Wed, 06-30-2010 - 6:36pm

ugh ugh ugh, I think I JUST posted about this same topic! In fact, didn't you respond and empathize IGS? LOL.
Honestly I have no clue and it is so frustrating. Especially when they initiate the text and you respond and then nothing! Whenever that happens, my first instinct is to grit my teeth and go ohhh, DISS!

But, I am trying to approach it differently. Who knows why they didn't respond, but what is important is that they will respond eventually. Also, someone said, and I think there is truth to this, that when women are thinking of men, they want contact and affirmation. But when men are thinking of women, they often just like to think, without the need for the affirmation. But as women, that validation and affirmation is sooo important whereas men, it just doesn't seem to be the same need.

Also, sometimes when he texts me, I kind of like not responding for awhile because I feel like I have a bit of power, you know? Because I know he is waiting for my response.
So, whether it's that he's just busy with work or his DW is around, is thinking of you but hasn't gotten around to responding, or is waiting a bit to make you want it, our responses should be the same.
We should just sit back, relax, distract ourselves, and remind ourselves that they WILL text us back.
They always do, right?
Good luck! And I totally agree with how annoying it is, grrrrr

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Wed, 06-30-2010 - 7:37pm
Happens here a lot, too.

anotherseyes